The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

[Sharmai]

aychamo_aycono take heart. There are more women in the world then men this is in your favor. Even still you have to remeber one very important fact. It only takes one. Sure it could take 5 years or 20 years but you only have to find the right one. Some people find it at 16 thats rare. Others find it at 26 and I'd bet thats more common. And still others find it at 40 sometimes even after dozens of relationships.

The goal isn't to see the right one the goal is to be as happy as you can be till she shows up. Theres nothing you can do to speed this up. Don't drama over it or be sad just go on a vacation get screwed a few times and enjoy yourself. It's coming just stop looking for it.


And if you really need to be working on finding the right one then work on the only thing you can.. improving yourself. Get a decent stable high end job. Get a 401k and a savings. Improve your wardrobe and look more professional. Get into a rhythm of getting your hair done and always being clean and neat. Take some cooking classes and learn how to cook the romantic meals.

Then when she does show up you will be 1000x times more valuable then any other man. When she does show up you will be so good she will think shes lucky to have you. So improve yourself and have fun, time is on your side.

[notyourtypicalgrl]

great advice Sharmai. Couldn't have said it better myself.

[Snugglebear]

Originally Posted by aychamo_aycono

I agree, mostly, and I think it's because I'm pretty crazy too. I don't care about being better in bed, etc, because despite what I've said about sex, if it's with someone I love then it's infinitely better. But I'm getting old (27) and I'm about ready to settle down with the right girl. I thought this girl was her. Smartest girl I've met, graduated top of her medical class, most beautiful girl I've ever seen, fun, etc, but it just can't be.

I'm sorry bro. But some of these girls are high maintenance and want the Grey's Anatomy dramafucking.

[notyourtypicalgrl]

Originally Posted by Druixx

And conversely, a lot of women go for the asshole guys that treat them like shit when they should be looking for nice guys that would put them on a pedestal. So it goes both ways.

That is sadly true. I have been guilty myself of being attracted to the "asshole" instead of the nice guy. The nice guys tend to not speak up either. They just need to be more assertive and many lack confidence to do so. Women are attracted to the confidence men have.

I now have a pretty good guy who is a even mixture of asshole and nice guy so it works out for me.

[Sharmai]

Try using this guide to different types of women..

Girls who like good guys = Already married.
Why? Because even though you see asshole men all the time there are actually a ton more good/decent men out there. Each and every one of them wants a women to and some of them have one.

Girls who like bad guys = Trouble, Drama, Issues, Easy, and their are a fuckton of them.
These are the women who are immature and not grown up yet. They WILL fuck you over at some point on some reason. You can't rely on them for jack and every time you try to do something sensible like stay home instead of eat out again and waste money, she will just flip out. These women are easy to get all you have to do is play your the Alpha male. Unfortunely though these women will cause you the greatest heartbreak if your trying ot have a serious relationship. If all you want is sex, however, then these women are your number 1 goal.

Girls who use to want bad guys but have grown up = Marriage material. Not very easy. Very suspicious of men and jealous of other women. Need a lot of pampering and care you can't just leave them at home 3 days of the week and hope everythings ok.
There are many women like this 25+ but you have to change who you are to get them. They want a man who has a kind of dark side but who is obviously good on the outside. I.E. you need to be able to take control but also give and take at times. You have to stand up for her but don't but an idiot about it. You have to be clean and have a real job. You need to drop the drugs, video games, sex with other women, and any other bad man habits. SOme of these you will be able to keep but not like you use to back in your college days. Hey its time to grow up it sucks thats life.

[Sharmai]

Oh hell I'm posting a lot but I've got one more. Always remeber you set the bar for her next man. Sometimes you have to let her go so she can realize how big of a mistake she made and then come back. (*Note if your breakup is bad she won't come back so no matter what happens NEVER burn your bridges. Always make the breakups cordial)

The idea here is that if you always cook her, her favorite lobster dinner then her next man needs to do that + x or he isn't as good as you. If your always dressed nice and clean then her next man needs to dress nicer and be cleaner. If you have a decent job and keep your money straight then her next man can't be some bum who charges up her credit cards. If you go down on her for half and hour at the start of foreplay then follow up with a rocking night of sex then her next man has to go down for an hour.

If you set the bar high enough then her next man is going to fucking hate you because she will always be saying .." But aychamo_aycono did this or aychamo_aycono did that or he WOULD buy me my favorite ice cream when I was said and he did give me back massages and he would sit on the couch and talk to me all the time..


Set the bar high enough and when she breaks up with you her friends will be bitching her out for doing so and then coming over to fuck you from all the good things theyve heard about you

[OhSeven]

Originally Posted by Sharmai

The mother fucking TRUTH

Great post Sharmai, my only problem is do you want this girl back? Maybe its just me but most of my break ups havn't been on that good of terms except 3but, I can't see myself giving them a chance again. Even ones who I loved, Granted I wasn't mad in love with them but I did love them and to a point I still do.

Eh, maybe I should just shut up about it. Listen to Sharmai and do what makes you happy aychamo.

[notyourtypicalgrl]

Really accurate analysis Sharmai. + internets for you.

I don't consider any of the above ass kissing either. It makes for a healthier relationship when a man can show his sentimental side and still rock your world in the bedroom. A woman would be a damn fool to pass up that.

[aychamo_aycono]

Originally Posted by Sharmai

The goal isn't to see the right one the goal is to be as happy as you can be till she shows up. Theres nothing you can do to speed this up. Don't drama over it or be sad just go on a vacation get screwed a few times and enjoy yourself. It's coming just stop looking for it.

These are good words. Thank you, it was very nice to read!

[Sharmai]

OhSeven sometimes you do and sometimes you don't. Really just make sure you break up on good terms then when she comes back its on your terms. You will know how you feel then and your head will be clearer then. My best advice is to always make sure you "sleep on it" no matter how confident you are about your future decision. A good night's sleep works wonders for avoiding future hasty mistakes.

Originally Posted by notyourtypicalgrl

Really accurate analysis Sharmai. + internets for you.

I don't consider any of the above ass kissing either. It makes for a healthier relationship when a man can show his sentimental side and still rock your world in the bedroom. A woman would be a damn fool to pass up that.

Well some men think doing those things is a lot of work. A IT IS!! Improving yourself is hard and its hard to make yourself do it. Going down on a women and not getting the favor returned kind of sucks some times. Cooking dinner for her after a hard days work is stressful. Planning weird and random things like buying her a rose every sunday for 12 weeks before the day you two met on and then giving her a nice 100$ bracelet on that day. That kind of shit makes a women cream. Hard. Hey babe I saw this at the store the other day and it was blue and I remebered you like dolphins so I got it for you. Oh and heres a little engraving for it that says I love you.

CREAM....

I call the bonus points. Is she having a rough week? Show up for lunch one day with her favorite food. Is it just a random day like any other and nothing special? Go buy a dozen roses. Why? Because she wasn't expecting it thats why. You want a ton of bonus points? Plan her birthday party with her to go to an amusement park while actually planning a surprise party for her. You want more bonus points? tell her shes beautiful and sexy often. Yes you'll get sick of hearing it, no she will not.


All I'm saying is set that bar really fucking high. Earn a ton of 'bonus points' and it all gets easier.




*Secret tip.. I have really bad memory so when my babe casually mentions that she likes something I take a moment to write it in my cellphone when shes not looking. Then 3 months later I buy it and just give it to her. Bonus points man. Its in the details.

[Manseed]

Originally Posted by Sharmai

I call the bonus points. Is she having a rough week? Show up for lunch one day with her favorite food. Is it just a random day like any other and nothing special? Go buy a dozen roses. Why? Because she wasn't expecting it thats why. You want a ton of bonus points? Plan her birthday party with her to go to an amusement park while actually planning a surprise party for her. You want more bonus points? tell her shes beautiful and sexy often. Yes you'll get sick of hearing it, no she will not.

I did that shit for 2 years and I haven't even gotten a reason for her leaving yet. I think it's hit and miss, because I believe that with the majority of females if you treat them really good they start to think that they can do better.

All great advice though, thanks Sharmai.

[Sharmai]

Ya sometimes it happens like that. I got to be honest and say sometimes a good chick goes bad. I don't know excatly why that happens. I think mabye its because they were good all their life and now just want to experience something differet? Mabye they don't like order and like the chaos more? Its hard to say..

In that situation all I could say was "be glad she left now instead of finding this out later". that doesn't make it hurt any less I know but as you get older less and less women are like this...

[Ronaan]

Girl that broke my heart....

we met late 1995. Started working at the same place. I was with someone, she was with someone, but we had a 6-week-fuckfest in summer of 1996 anyway.
All was wonderful and I thought we'd have something.

Well, she went back to the guy she was with. Can't understand it to this day. He treated her like shit.

To make things worse, this woman had the tightest and moistest pussy I've ever experienced. She wrote her name right on my back, oh boy those nails were sharp.


We did have to see each other at work every day, and it wasn't a big problem, surprisingly enough. I got married in 1997 (stupid idea btw), and all was fine. Got divorced in 2000 (told you it was a stupid idea).
We even saw each other after we stopped working at the same company. There were four of us who'd meet for dinner ~3-4 times a year.
I stopped going to those meetings for a while because I was in bad shape, physically and mentally. Just didn't want to see anyone.

Some time late 2003, she contacted me (don't remember how) and suddenly we kicked off again, like it used to be. I was single, she was still with that guy from 1995/1996... and we fucked like maniacs for ~5 months.

And then she broke my heart for the second time.

She said we had no future, she wanted to have kids one day and when she stayed with him she could be sure they got sometihng to eat...
Well, I just bought my own apartment. For what it's worth, I'm doing alright.

The sex was still the best I've ever had. (close 2nd is that girl from former east germany with the huge knockers, who enjoyed taking it up the ass, but that's a different story).

Don't have a pic, but she somewhat looked like "Raven" (the '80s porn star). Long black hair, small ass, small tits, all that.

[brekk]

Originally Posted by aychamo_aycono

Let's not even mention this right now

been there. it sucks hardcore.

Think Pam and Jim in The Office before season 4. That kinda shit. The mini speech Jim has to Dwight after Angela dumps him. Almost had me in fucking tears.

[Azrayne]

Never had my heart broken, but I'm 18 so plenty of time.

Only girl I've even had any kind of emotional attachment to was a chick I hung out with from 5rd grade or so until I was 15. Typical 'friendzoned' story because I was too scared to make a move, eventually we stopped hanging out due to family drama. Ever since I've never met a girl who was anything more than a casual fuck/friend. Current GF falls somewhere between the two, but I definately won't be 'heart broken' when we break up by any stretch of the imagination.