The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread - Page 506

arkk123 · 11-15-2009, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Dabamf

Not all girls are sluts that get DPed every week.

Guys usually view them as such when they aren't dating one, lol. But you are, so you don't.

Have the two of you even had sex yet?

Gryeyes · 11-15-2009, 08:43 PM

Bias towards the fantastic aside, the rationalization of the situation is more damning than the situation itself. And honestly is what gives the most insight into whats "really" going on. Maybe her dishonesty isn't about something serious (or MORE serious), but your tap dancing to rationalize it lets us know where you stand.

Yeah, my GF of 3 months wont let me come over and every time i mention it she shuts down and refuses to even discuss it. She also lies about a future date, with no explanation given. I dont push the issue cuz im not 12 and the adult thing is to be shady and dishonest. Its ok tho because I also lie to her to play video games.

Your meat world friends should already be slapping the shit out of you.

Dabamf · 11-15-2009, 08:59 PM

I'm laughing as I'm typing this because this whole thing has just turned preposterous. *I* mentioned the apartment thing on here only months ago because it was confusing to me but it has NEVER arisen as an issue between me and her until this mini mini argument we had on Saturday. Oct. 31 was given as a "I'll be ok with it then" not as "Oct31 is the date we go see it." And it was resolved, she said I can go any time now. If she's lying, she's got the IQ of a brick because it's a lie that I can verify the next time I decide I wanna go to her god damn apartment.

Situation summary: we've been dating for 3 months, she is not comfortable with me seeing her apartment, and we got in a (read: ONE) mini mini argument about it on Saturday, and she as agreed to let me go any time I want in the future. You guys are seriously totally fucking insane. If you're just trolling, then well done, because your responses make less sense than that fucking pancake rabbit.

chu · 11-15-2009, 09:03 PM

YOU don't think it's a big issue but most everyone here is saying that it IS an issue. If she's getting fisted by her fucking brother, you may be cool with it but everyone else with open eyes isn't.

Way to get your panties in a bunch when people don't agree with you. You posted your relationship out in the open to be criticized so deal with it.

Gryeyes · 11-15-2009, 09:09 PM

You do understand the issue has nothing to do with your "arguement" right? Whether it was micro or wittle or teenie weenie. Its that your GF of three months wont let you enter or see her home. And the issue isn't resolved even when you see where she lives and she explains what the fucking problem was to begin with. The issue is she does not trust you, and does not feel the need to be open with you. Even when it looks really bad, and im sure hurts your feelings.

Guys, guys its ok, the arguement was TINY and now she said I can come over anytime! I haven't actually been over tho, because I know its not acceptable, but one day! Whew problem solved! I weep for when someone cut/pastes some earlier conversations on the topic in here.

arkk123 · 11-15-2009, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Dabamf

I'm laughing as I'm typing this because this whole thing has just turned preposterous. *I* mentioned the apartment thing on here only months ago because it was confusing to me but it has NEVER arisen as an issue between me and her until this mini mini argument we had on Saturday. Oct. 31 was given as a "I'll be ok with it then" not as "Oct31 is the date we go see it." And it was resolved, she said I can go any time now. If she's lying, she's got the IQ of a brick because it's a lie that I can verify the next time I decide I wanna go to her god damn apartment.

Situation summary: we've been dating for 3 months, she is not comfortable with me seeing her apartment, and we got in a (read: ONE) mini mini argument about it on Saturday, and she as agreed to let me go any time I want in the future. You guys are seriously totally fucking insane. If you're just trolling, then well done, because your responses make less sense than that fucking pancake rabbit.

I seriously don't get how you can take time to write 5 paragraph responses to people about your thoughts and opinions, and the minute anyone brings up theirs regarding your highly sketchy situation, you are in shock.

You posted your issue. Why did you post it if it was no big deal? Why did you get into an argument about it? If were all wrong and you are completely right, then why did you bother writing your novel to complain about it?

You sound like a fucking sociopath.

Eomer · 11-15-2009, 09:19 PM

Dabamf, I'm not trying to jump on you (and most of the responses save for a few aren't either), but as others are saying your reaction to people's "advice" is somewhat telling in the same way my reactions have been in the past. You give me shit for not listening, and you're doing the exact same thing!

So the friend in Calgary, Diane, texted me tonight. Started off with a picture of a "I <3 crackwhores" bumper sticker she saw today, and she again said for me to call her next time I'm in town. I texted back a bit more detail about when I'd be around, she texted back that I should tell my bud in Calgary, his GF, and whoever else would be around that she'd have us over for dinner when it works, I let her know that she just invited about 8 of us over, she laughed and said that if anyone can throw a party it's her and to bring it on. I laughed and said I was surprised she was playing Suzy Homemaker these days. Her last text was:

"Really, I wouldn't call it that I would say a "socialite"! Night Mr Big. See u when u r back from your travels. Maybe..."

Something to look forward to on the flight home!

arkk123 · 11-15-2009, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Eomer

Dabamf, I'm not trying to jump on you (and most of the responses save for a few aren't either), but as others are saying your reaction to people's "advice" is somewhat telling in the same way my reactions have been in the past. You give me shit for not listening, and you're doing the exact same thing!

Except the big, sane difference with you is when someone goes "I think she is being shady" you don't reply "OH MY GOD U GUYS ARE SO FUCKING CRAZY THERES NO FUCKING WAY THATS THE CASE! WHAT? THE 2 COCKS IN EACH HAND? SHE WAS FALLING, SHE HAD TO GRAB ONTO SOMETHING!"

Dabamf · 11-15-2009, 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Gryeyes

The issue is she does not trust you, and does not feel the need to be open with you.

Yea I had to cherry pick this statement, but that is the issue to me and I agree with you. Fortunately, issues building trust is something I explicitly prepared myself for from the moment I decided to date a Korean girl given how reserved they are, how westerners have a reputation for using them and going home, and other factors. So, if that's the issue, well I'm pretty fuckin happy cuz that's what I expected and that can be dealt with.

The general accusation is that I act like I'm different than other posters, and my response would be different if someone else had posted the same story. My response? Well, that's true. I do think I'm different than most posters. I am because I am in complete control of my situation. I enjoy my time with this girl but if things were to go sour I have at least one korean and anywhere between 1-3 american girls that I could call and go out with *tomorrow*. And, while I don't take advantage of it, the balance of this relationship is tipped quite strongly in my favor.

Your evaluation of all that? Don't give a fuck. Oh, but EVERYONE thinks they are different. I hear that a lot, usually from girls who talk about guys being dicks for sleeping around (and how they treat the girls) which I have done from time to time when single. My response is always, "just because everyone says they are different doesn't mean that none are." If it was another poster I may be more skeptical simply because of the limited nature of the information given, no doubt. My real error in posting the story was that I figured given my advice history in this thread, and few people would doubt that I know what the fuck I'm talkin about, a simple "no, I got it" response from me would quell the concern. My mistake.

Brad2770 · 11-15-2009, 11:13 PM

I need to read the other last few pages another time, I am too tired, but before my 'girlfriend' remark gets too burried, i will respond to a few that mentioned how I went about it.

We were talking about us. We had this conversation last year, actually, but it was empty for me. Everything I said last year was just what she wanted to hear so I could keep getting laid.

This year, I was the one that brought it up. She knows how I am about kissing and titles. I told her I wanted to be different than I used to be and asked her if we were a couple: boyfriend and girlfriend. i told her that I would like to refer to her as my girlfriend to other people when i talked about her and she said she would like that.

Thats pretty much how it went. Thats why I said I felt silly.

Gryeyes · 11-15-2009, 11:21 PM

So you assumed that if your actions,logic and rationale were identical in all aspects to the people you deride that you would be given a pass? No dude, you don't understand IM SPECIAL! Its totally different when its me doing the stupid shit I berate other people about. But now this has progressed to the point were the original issue of your gf acting shady, is overshadowed by your attempts at "explaining" it.

You acting "different" than other posters isn't the issue. Its that you believe your special magic somehow negates the logic and reality of your story, just by dint of being yourself. Its fairly disturbing, you would laugh at anyone telling you this shit. And you really don't appear to be aware or incapable of understanding how laughably twatish it is.

You seem to be acting glaringly stereotypical for someone who believes they are special. Yeah you are in total control of the situation. Three fucking months and you just got permission to come over. But I wasn't intending to dog pile on ya so I will stop.

Dabamf · 11-15-2009, 11:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gryeyes

So you assumed that if your actions,logic and rationale were identical in all aspects to the people you deride that you would be given a pass? No dude, you don't understand IM SPECIAL! Its totally different when its me doing the stupid shit I berate other people about. But now this has progressed to the point were the original issue of your gf acting shady, is overshadowed by your attempts at "explaining" it.

You acting "different" than other posters isn't the issue. Its that you believe your special magic somehow negates the logic and reality of your story, just by dint of being yourself. Its fairly disturbing, you would laugh at anyone telling you this shit. And you really don't appear to be aware or incapable of understanding how laughably twatish it is.

You seem to be acting glaringly stereotypical for someone who believes they are special. Yeah you are in total control of the situation. Three fucking months and you just got permission to come over. But I wasn't intending to dog pile on ya so I will stop.

The difference is that when my girl acts shady, I am supremely confident in my ability to handle the situation properly and make sure it doesn't happen again. And if I am unable to change anything, I am supremely confident in my ability to recognize that and act accordingly. I am not confident in other posters because they are not me and I do not know them. The end.

Gryeyes · 11-16-2009, 12:18 AM

Oh, well that changes everything. You are confident that you are not a dumbfuck, therefore you are not one. But everyone else woud be in the same situation and you would berate them. Thanks for confirming you really do have some DEEP issues.

Grooverider · 11-16-2009, 01:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dabamf

The difference is that when my girl acts shady, I am supremely confident in my ability to handle the situation properly and make sure it doesn't happen again. And if I am unable to change anything, I am supremely confident in my ability to recognize that and act accordingly. I am not confident in other posters because they are not me and I do not know them. The end.

If you've been seeing her for 3 months and you aren't allowed to see her place, guess what - she is not 'your girl'.

Ronaan · 11-16-2009, 01:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Brad2770

When did you guys 'know' she was your girlfriend?

I'd say right after the first kiss...
... which, funny enough, happened in her apartment. She invited me to come over before we even were a couple. Cultural difference I guess.

Been going on for over 3 months now, things are still great. Couldn't be any happier. Her family is full of nice people, she's great with her niece and nephew, she likes to come with me when I visit my parents or brother, all that stuff.

If it weren't for you guys, I'd probably still / again be stuck with my crazy psycho ex. Thanks again for getting me out of that. FoHSS - Internet Heroes.

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11-15-2009, 08:43 PM	#7577 (permalink)
Gryeyes Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,294 -34 Internets	Bias towards the fantastic aside, the rationalization of the situation is more damning than the situation itself. And honestly is what gives the most insight into whats "really" going on. Maybe her dishonesty isn't about something serious (or MORE serious), but your tap dancing to rationalize it lets us know where you stand. Yeah, my GF of 3 months wont let me come over and every time i mention it she shuts down and refuses to even discuss it. She also lies about a future date, with no explanation given. I dont push the issue cuz im not 12 and the adult thing is to be shady and dishonest. Its ok tho because I also lie to her to play video games. Your meat world friends should already be slapping the shit out of you.

11-15-2009, 08:59 PM	#7578 (permalink)
Dabamf Registered User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Seoul, Korea Posts: 2,558 +17 Internets	I'm laughing as I'm typing this because this whole thing has just turned preposterous. I mentioned the apartment thing on here only months ago because it was confusing to me but it has NEVER arisen as an issue between me and her until this mini mini argument we had on Saturday. Oct. 31 was given as a "I'll be ok with it then" not as "Oct31 is the date we go see it." And it was resolved, she said I can go any time now. If she's lying, she's got the IQ of a brick because it's a lie that I can verify the next time I decide I wanna go to her god damn apartment. Situation summary: we've been dating for 3 months, she is not comfortable with me seeing her apartment, and we got in a (read: ONE) mini mini argument about it on Saturday, and she as agreed to let me go any time I want in the future. You guys are seriously totally fucking insane. If you're just trolling, then well done, because your responses make less sense than that fucking pancake rabbit.

11-15-2009, 09:03 PM	#7579 (permalink)
chu Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 1,598 -68 Internets	YOU don't think it's a big issue but most everyone here is saying that it IS an issue. If she's getting fisted by her fucking brother, you may be cool with it but everyone else with open eyes isn't. Way to get your panties in a bunch when people don't agree with you. You posted your relationship out in the open to be criticized so deal with it.

11-15-2009, 09:09 PM	#7580 (permalink)
Gryeyes Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,294 -34 Internets	You do understand the issue has nothing to do with your "arguement" right? Whether it was micro or wittle or teenie weenie. Its that your GF of three months wont let you enter or see her home. And the issue isn't resolved even when you see where she lives and she explains what the fucking problem was to begin with. The issue is she does not trust you, and does not feel the need to be open with you. Even when it looks really bad, and im sure hurts your feelings. Guys, guys its ok, the arguement was TINY and now she said I can come over anytime! I haven't actually been over tho, because I know its not acceptable, but one day! Whew problem solved! I weep for when someone cut/pastes some earlier conversations on the topic in here.

11-15-2009, 09:19 PM	#7582 (permalink)
Eomer You mean I can change this? Neat! Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 13,546 +65 Internets	Dabamf, I'm not trying to jump on you (and most of the responses save for a few aren't either), but as others are saying your reaction to people's "advice" is somewhat telling in the same way my reactions have been in the past. You give me shit for not listening, and you're doing the exact same thing! So the friend in Calgary, Diane, texted me tonight. Started off with a picture of a "I <3 crackwhores" bumper sticker she saw today, and she again said for me to call her next time I'm in town. I texted back a bit more detail about when I'd be around, she texted back that I should tell my bud in Calgary, his GF, and whoever else would be around that she'd have us over for dinner when it works, I let her know that she just invited about 8 of us over, she laughed and said that if anyone can throw a party it's her and to bring it on. I laughed and said I was surprised she was playing Suzy Homemaker these days. Her last text was: "Really, I wouldn't call it that I would say a "socialite"! Night Mr Big. See u when u r back from your travels. Maybe..." Something to look forward to on the flight home!

11-15-2009, 11:21 PM	#7586 (permalink)
Gryeyes Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,294 -34 Internets	So you assumed that if your actions,logic and rationale were identical in all aspects to the people you deride that you would be given a pass? No dude, you don't understand IM SPECIAL! Its totally different when its me doing the stupid shit I berate other people about. But now this has progressed to the point were the original issue of your gf acting shady, is overshadowed by your attempts at "explaining" it. You acting "different" than other posters isn't the issue. Its that you believe your special magic somehow negates the logic and reality of your story, just by dint of being yourself. Its fairly disturbing, you would laugh at anyone telling you this shit. And you really don't appear to be aware or incapable of understanding how laughably twatish it is. You seem to be acting glaringly stereotypical for someone who believes they are special. Yeah you are in total control of the situation. Three fucking months and you just got permission to come over. But I wasn't intending to dog pile on ya so I will stop.

11-16-2009, 12:18 AM	#7588 (permalink)
Gryeyes Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,294 -34 Internets	Oh, well that changes everything. You are confident that you are not a dumbfuck, therefore you are not one. But everyone else woud be in the same situation and you would berate them. Thanks for confirming you really do have some DEEP issues.