The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

[K`Lag]

Originally Posted by kegkilla

eomer stop censoring you're fucking pictures no one has a fucking clue what this girl looks like or not. nobody lives in canada so no one is going to see these people.

Absolute bullshit, I would censor everything put out in the public domain on the net. (as a post of mine in this thread demonstrates) Any intelligent and determined person can piece together scraps of information to dig up a whole host of details on people.

I feel like this thread in turning us all into a bunch of old gossiping women as I am oddly quite interested in hearing about what happens between him and the older career driven woman.

[Eomer]

Originally Posted by My sweet, sweet lover

People can call me out all I want. Tho I dont go posting .. "shes so below my standards, I only date 10's" when my hair is falling out. ^_^

lol, I never said that, or if I did I was being sarcastic. I did own up to placing a fair amount of importance on a girl's looks and figure, but tempered that by saying I wouldn't date a bitch even if she was hot (and specifically pointed to Xerxes as an example). Basically, I'm just really fucking picky in all respects. I want a super model with a heart of gold who's extremely intelligent, career driven, likes outdoorsy type shit, into anal, a good cook and who can give me a run for my money at NHL10. Is that too much to ask?

No worries though, if anything I'm curious to know what you originally posted. I don't take much seriously round here. Or in real life. I'm the first guy to make jokes at my own expense.

Originally Posted by Ravvenn

I hate to break it to you but there's plenty of women who like bald men regardless of if it was shaved off or fell out.

Exactly. I've been shaving my head for 8 years, long before my hair started to thin. I shave it to 1/16", it's really short everywhere, and so long as it's been shaved in the past couple days it doesn't even overtly look like I'm balding, it just looks really short all around. Even in that picture you can pretty clearly see I have hair on my entire head, it's just thinner on top (my hairline hasn't budged).

I'm under no illusions that I'm fooling anyone. The point is, I've done alright for myself with a shaved head, and most people I know have told me they prefer it to when I grew it a bit longer and went with the trendy, spikey, gelled to shit look.

I don't need any "luck", I'm a fairly decent looking guy and for most girls, that's good enough provided the other intangibles are there as well.

Originally Posted by Ravvenn

Eomer, keep one thing in mind with this one. If she's with someone now and planning a date with you, she's keeping her options open and you'll have to work hard for this one (or will end up being FZ'd while she sings her relationship blues to you over drinks you paid for). You will have to keep her attention if you end up with her or down the road, she may be making email plans with the next guy in line.

Yup, well aware. I'm curious to find out how long she's dated the other guy. At one point during the dinner she had been telling a story about someone, and Betty jumped in with a "that's her boyfriend" comment for whatever reason (it wasn't a very positive story, but I don't recall exactly what it was about), so they've been involved long enough to use that term, but from the sounds of it Betty doesn't much like him and perhaps Charlene was looking for an out anyway.

I'm just gonna take it as it comes. So long as I have some fun that's all I'm really after. If it turns in to a relationship, great. If it doesn't and we just hang out half a dozen times, that's fine too. I want to see the band we're going to tomorrow, and none of my friends are up, so awesome I've got someone to go with and frankly don't much care if I'm paying for the ticket or drinks. I'm rich bitch!

Originally Posted by Ravvenn

So, Eomer, what are you going to plan now?

I sent her an email this afternoon relating an amusing story of my grandparents fighting over a nylon handbag while de-planing, told her it worked out great she couldn't make either hockey game because my dad and other grampa had laid claim to those two games (well actually I'd given them the tickets since I hadn't heard from her), told her that the show should be over not much past 11 and that I promised not to line up shots so she could get her beauty sleep, and asked her to send me her number so I could call her tonight to confirm the plans. She responded literally 2 minutes later with her home and cell numbers, no other message.

So I'll probably arrange to meet her at a pub or something nearby for a bite and drink before the show, and then we'll stroll over to the venue and catch the concert. Our two places and the venue are all within about an 8 block radius of each other, so it's convenient in that respect, I'm sure I'll be all chivalrous and walk her home even though it's out of the way.

[Eomer]

Originally Posted by K`Lag

Absolute bullshit, I would censor everything put out in the public domain on the net. (as a post of mine in this thread demonstrates) Any intelligent and determined person can piece together scraps of information to dig up a whole host of details on people.

I feel like this thread in turning us all into a bunch of old gossiping women as I am oddly quite interested in hearing about what happens between him and the older career driven woman.

Coming from the dude who pieced together the details of my whole life, yeah, I'm inclined to agree! There's only one person who used to frequent these boards that I know IRL, but I'm not concerned since he's a cool dude, in a Millie kind of way.

But yeah, I'm curious myself. She's 33, previously married (and possibly still legally) and I'm not really sure what to expect. Is she on the "oh god I need to crank out babies ASAP" plan? Maybe she's sterile! Who knows? No question I'm somewhat intimidated, if only because I'm typically used to dating girls who are younger than me who don't have their shit together. Intimidated is the wrong word, but basically I'm used to not having to do a damn thing to impress the hell out of someone, and not being concerned about it. I don't plan on changing anything with her, though. And as I related in my first post, while she was easy to talk to, she wasn't especially outgoing or fun, but that could just as easily have been because she was overshadowed by Betty (who is in marketing, that's her job).

[Andriana]

Originally Posted by Eomer

There's only one person who used to frequent these boards that I know IRL, but I'm not concerned since he's a cool dude, in a Millie kind of way.

Wat?

[arkk123]

Is she a lot taller than you?

What is up with this description?

"Basically, I'm just really fucking picky in all respects. I want a super model with a heart of gold who's extremely intelligent, career driven, likes outdoorsy type shit, into anal, a good cook and who can give me a run for my money at NHL10. Is that too much to ask?"

You can't be that delusional, you just really can't. Into anal? What kind of creepy pyscho shit is that? That is criteria for dating a woman? Are you bi or something? Anal is fucking disgusting.

Anyway, you should take this whole thing with a grain of salt. I think by your huge posts about it that you are severely overthinking things. I can guarantee you that she isn't somewhere doing the same thing, you haven't even been on a date yet. The fact that she is attached to someone else is already a sign that you shouldn't be wasting your time with this bitch anyway. If it was a one night stand or something it is a different story, but what dude is trying to get to know a girl that is dating another guy? You are sending her emails about small talk and attempts to be witty and stuff, and you haven't even hung out with her yet. In a week or two, you are going to be that guy who she ignores emails and texts from, because you are probably going to annoy the shit out of her.

This is just bad all over. I'd just try to fuck her and leave it at that. You are setting yourself up for a fucking monumental mini novel post of sorrow and regret. On top of all of this, you are insecure in a painfully obvious and even sometimes admitted way. If you think a girl doesn't pick up on this you are wrong.

It is a bad idea, and it will bite you in the face. Abort abort abort.

[Shutup]

So what you are saying is, is that he should do it?

[Sutekh]

Originally Posted by arkk123

Is she a lot taller than you?

What is up with this description?

"Basically, I'm just really fucking picky in all respects. I want a super model with a heart of gold who's extremely intelligent, career driven, likes outdoorsy type shit, into anal, a good cook and who can give me a run for my money at NHL10. Is that too much to ask?"

You can't be that delusional, you just really can't. Into anal? What kind of creepy pyscho shit is that? That is criteria for dating a woman? Are you bi or something? Anal is fucking disgusting.

Anyway, you should take this whole thing with a grain of salt. I think by your huge posts about it that you are severely overthinking things. I can guarantee you that she isn't somewhere doing the same thing, you haven't even been on a date yet. The fact that she is attached to someone else is already a sign that you shouldn't be wasting your time with this bitch anyway. If it was a one night stand or something it is a different story, but what dude is trying to get to know a girl that is dating another guy? You are sending her emails about small talk and attempts to be witty and stuff, and you haven't even hung out with her yet. In a week or two, you are going to be that guy who she ignores emails and texts from, because you are probably going to annoy the shit out of her.

This is just bad all over. I'd just try to fuck her and leave it at that. You are setting yourself up for a fucking monumental mini novel post of sorrow and regret. On top of all of this, you are insecure in a painfully obvious and even sometimes admitted way. If you think a girl doesn't pick up on this you are wrong.

It is a bad idea, and it will bite you in the face. Abort abort abort.

I really didn't think someone could be more annoying then me, you have achieved this goal.

[Dabamf]

I'd never post face pics on here. You never know when some douchebag you pissed off will go on a mission to fuck with your life. I don't know how people even go about digging up personal info, but I know it must not be too hard. Fuck, I figured out Tenks and I went to the same high school and hung out through a mutual friend for years, just based on coincidental postings on facebook and here. For a small bribe I will reveal his identity. (just kidding)

Eomer, ignore the fact that she's older. You'll have moments of thinking explicitly "man she's older than me, the balance should be off" but in actual behavior it never comes through, and that thought only comes up because you think it should or would matter. Treat her like she's your age.

Unrelated, since you have a lot of money and everything, do you always pay for everything, or do you make the girl pay in some cases? Seems like a dilemma of the rich guy, because I think it is pretty essential for the girl to pay sometimes. It doesn't have to come out to 50/50, but the girl should be paying for things also. Otherwise it sets a bad precedent. But on the other hand its weird if you're dating someone who's broke and you have a lot of money, to ask them to pay for things...

[Brad2770]

Originally Posted by Sutekh

I really didn't think someone could be more annoying then me, you have achieved this goal.

hello

[Eomer]

Originally Posted by Andriana

Wat?

lol fucker, I knew you were lurking

[Eomer]

Originally Posted by arkk

Is she a lot taller than you?

What is up with this description?

No, she's about 3 inches shorter, which is about perfect in my opinion. I don't care if a girl is taller than me, but most times they do.

You can't be that delusional, you just really can't. Into anal? What kind of creepy pyscho shit is that? That is criteria for dating a woman? Are you bi or something? Anal is fucking disgusting.

That entire thing was quite obviously sarcasm, or at least parts were. I'm not delusional enough to think that I'll ever find the perfect girl that fulfills my every desire and stipulation, but again I'm picky.

Never done anal, don't really care if I ever do. Too much of a neat freak for it, most likely.

Anyway, you should take this whole thing with a grain of salt. I think by your huge posts about it that you are severely overthinking things.

Undoubtedly I'm overthinking things. That's what I do. And I talk too much. Tell me something I don't already know.

You are sending her emails about small talk and attempts to be witty and stuff, and you haven't even hung out with her yet.

Well actually, we've damn near been on the equivalent of a date or two in terms of time spent over the wedding weekend.

In a week or two, you are going to be that guy who she ignores emails and texts from, because you are probably going to annoy the shit out of her.

I'm going to do my best not to do that, but you're absolutely correct in pointing that out. I'm thinking I'll look up the ski trip girl as a sort of back up plan and/or distraction.

This is just bad all over. I'd just try to fuck her and leave it at that. You are setting yourself up for a fucking monumental mini novel post of sorrow and regret. On top of all of this, you are insecure in a painfully obvious and even sometimes admitted way. If you think a girl doesn't pick up on this you are wrong.

Actually I think I've done alright in terms of avoiding sobbing whiny posts. I mean yeah I'm good at novel posts, but it's mostly recounting things that happened, and not dwelling upon how much I miss someone or whatever. Maybe they come across that way. As I've said in the past, I've never maintained any sort of diary or journal, and in some ways I've found this thread helpful if only to organize my thoughts a bit (but acknowledge that it can also be harmful in terms of overanalyzing things).

It is a bad idea, and it will bite you in the face. Abort abort abort

How so exactly? The worst that happens is she decides she's not interested, and I move on to the next one. Maybe that happens after a couple dates, or a couple months. You'd rather I just go find some mediocre chick who grovels at my feet and isn't a challenge and settle? Fuck that. Even though the whole Anne thing left me feeling not so hot in some respects, I don't regret having had the relationship. I learned a lot from it, and in spite of feeling down about women/relationships, my summer was good times regardless.

One of the things I said to myself last fall was that I was going to stop being a chickenshit and start actually putting some effort in to meeting girls, which I never really had in the past. They'd pretty much have to fall in to my lap for me to do anything. I don't know if it was some sort of phobia or mental block, but that's the way I had been previously. Since I made that decision, bam I've dated half a dozen or so pretty decent girls, and as I said learned a lot about how I and they operate. I still have approach anxiety with ones I don't know, but otherwise several of my good buds have commented on my sudden change in fortune after years of just sitting on the sidelines.

It would be fucking stupid to walk away from this without giving it a shot, even if it leads nowhere.

Unrelated, since you have a lot of money and everything, do you always pay for everything, or do you make the girl pay in some cases? Seems like a dilemma of the rich guy, because I think it is pretty essential for the girl to pay sometimes. It doesn't have to come out to 50/50, but the girl should be paying for things also. Otherwise it sets a bad precedent. But on the other hand its weird if you're dating someone who's broke and you have a lot of money, to ask them to pay for things...

Depends on the girl. I'm fine with paying all the time, or letting the girl pick up the tab if she wants to. That date with the baker girl for example I paid for the dinner before hand and obviously the tickets, but she offered to pay for the $8 beers at the game (and that's typically what I expect in return for tickets, whether a friend or a girl, is all I can drink crack beer).

Anne often insisted on paying for things and made comments that she felt bad about me paying for most things. I told her not to worry about it, but she did. Xerxes on the other hand never once offered to pay for a dinner the half dozen times we went out for one, and one time at this fancy wine store down the street when I asked her to pick out a bottle to go with the dinner we were making, she immediately grabbed a $60 bottle.

I think if anything the offer to pay, even if she doesn't actually pick up the tab in the end, is an indication that you're dealing with a good girl who's not just looking for free shit. But it really wouldn't much matter to me if I dated a girl for a month and she never paid for a thing, so long as she at least offered to.

It's something I wonder about too. For example, my parents have a place in Mexico that I've never been to, mostly cause of lack of people to go with (friends have either been broke, travelling elsewhere, or want to stay in some shithole all-inclusive in the Dominican). I think this will be the 5th winter they've had it. The second I find a girl who seems to be a good one, I'm going to ask her if she'd like to head down for a week. If she says yes and is good to go and able to pay for her flight, awesome. But I wonder if it's tacky or offputting, if she wasn't able or just not willing to put the cash down for the flight, to pay for it myself.

But in response to what you specifically asked, no, I never "make" them pay for anything. I give them the chance to, and observe how they handle it, almost as a test of character I guess. But personally I kind of enjoy spoiling them.

[Eomer]

Triple post, may as well put this in a separate one. So she had sent me her two numbers after I said I would call her tonight to firm up the plans. I had gone straight from work to a pub to watch the hockey game (suck it Turco), so I texted her around 8:30 saying I was watching the game with buds, and I would call her at 10:30 so long as it didn't interfere with her beauty sleep. She texted back no problem and she'd talk to me then. Game went in to OT and shootout, so I didn't get home until a bit after 10:30, as I wanted to make sure there were still tickets for the show left before I called.

As I was doing that she texted me that she was going to bed and that her cell would be recharging, hoped I had a "wonderful evening" and that the Oil had won and we'd talk soon. As soon as I got the text I called her from my home line, which kind of confused her when she answered, and she seemed really nervous on the phone. I asked if she had any preference of where to grab a bite beforehand, and she said her only condition was she didn't want to go to the trendy restobar that Chuck happens to works at. Fair enough then! At one point she said "oh, it doesn't matter, I'm easy" followed by an awkward pause and then her saying "well I don't mean like a slut or something" and I laughed and reminded her that she's supposed to be reserved. I honestly love that expression, girls always back themselves in to a corner with it. We agreed on a place and time and that was about it.

Like I said, I was kind of surprised at how nervous she seemed on the phone, which strikes me as actually a good thing.

[Aztlan]

It's an excellent thing that she was nervous. Shows she's been thinking of you and isn't taking you for granted. The best ones are always super nervous on the first date.

[arkk123]

Originally Posted by Eomer

How so exactly? The worst that happens is she decides she's not interested, and I move on to the next one. Maybe that happens after a couple dates, or a couple months. You'd rather I just go find some mediocre chick who grovels at my feet and isn't a challenge and settle? Fuck that. Even though the whole Anne thing left me feeling not so hot in some respects, I don't regret having had the relationship. I learned a lot from it, and in spite of feeling down about women/relationships, my summer was good times regardless.

One of the things I said to myself last fall was that I was going to stop being a chickenshit and start actually putting some effort in to meeting girls, which I never really had in the past. They'd pretty much have to fall in to my lap for me to do anything. I don't know if it was some sort of phobia or mental block, but that's the way I had been previously. Since I made that decision, bam I've dated half a dozen or so pretty decent girls, and as I said learned a lot about how I and they operate. I still have approach anxiety with ones I don't know, but otherwise several of my good buds have commented on my sudden change in fortune after years of just sitting on the sidelines.

It would be fucking stupid to walk away from this without giving it a shot, even if it leads nowhere.

meh

just made a huge epic post and deleted it. nm lol..

[Sutekh]

Originally Posted by arkk123

meh

just made a huge epic post and deleted it. nm lol..

Coming from you, you just made a huge pile of shit, thank you for deleting it.