The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

[Rikkum]

no girl has broken my heart.

[Shutup]

you must be one of them gays

[Kasi]

I think the point is that no relationship (marriage or otherwise) that is based on sexual attraction can last. Unless you are one of the very lucky few to be in a relationship with the (woman or man) of your dreams you're just going to eventually get over the early relationship heavy sex phase. At that point you better have a solid friendship to fall back upon or your relationship is fucked. I think from what I've read/heard of most successful long term relationships is that the couple are basically best friends. Thus long dry periods where the sex is infrequent doesn't doom the relationship, because you still want to hang around with the other person and do stuff together, just like you'd want to do with any best friend.

[hootie2]

AND WE HAVE A WINNER FOLKS!

I think the point is that no relationship (marriage or otherwise) that is based on sexual attraction can last. Unless you are one of the very lucky few to be in a relationship with the (woman or man) of your dreams you're just going to eventually get over the early relationship heavy sex phase. At that point you better have a solid friendship to fall back upon or your relationship is fucked. I think from what I've read/heard of most successful long term relationships is that the couple are basically best friends. Thus long dry periods where the sex is infrequent doesn't doom the relationship, because you still want to hang around with the other person and do stuff together, just like you'd want to do with any best friend.

Its not that complicated.

[niteflyx]

Originally Posted by Kasi

I think the point is that no relationship (marriage or otherwise) that is based on sexual attraction can last. Unless you are one of the very lucky few to be in a relationship with the (woman or man) of your dreams you're just going to eventually get over the early relationship heavy sex phase. At that point you better have a solid friendship to fall back upon or your relationship is fucked. I think from what I've read/heard of most successful long term relationships is that the couple are basically best friends. Thus long dry periods where the sex is infrequent doesn't doom the relationship, because you still want to hang around with the other person and do stuff together, just like you'd want to do with any best friend.

FCUK I NEED TO RETHINK EVERYTHING FUCK

[Rikkum]

Originally Posted by Shutup

you must be one of them gays

Negative.I do experiment with my asshole myself time to time

[brekk]

Originally Posted by Rikkum

Negative.I do experiment with my asshole myself time to time

Originally Posted by Shutup

you must be one of them gays

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edit: Went out to date at fireworks was fun, chatted a bunch, had a good time. Haven't made anymore plans but got the thumbs up to get out again. It's amazing how effective a new girl can be at displacing the last one out of your mind.

[Kenadul]

Originally Posted by brekk

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edit: Went out to date at fireworks was fun, chatted a bunch, had a good time. Haven't made anymore plans but got the thumbs up to get out again. It's amazing how effective a new girl can be at displacing the last one out of your mind.

Yeah a new chick will work wonders on getting an old one out of your mind. I had that happen a while back but it backfired when the new chick went awol out of nowhere. She was an old ex who I randomly texted whenever nothing else was happening and she knew that and is now probably f'ing her first choice.

[Dis]

Originally Posted by Rikkum

Negative.I do experiment with my asshole myself time to time

*You hatefuck yourself dont you...











*Shamelessly ripped from Jason Ellis

[lost]

Originally Posted by brekk

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edit: Went out to date at fireworks was fun, chatted a bunch, had a good time. Haven't made anymore plans but got the thumbs up to get out again. It's amazing how effective a new girl can be at displacing the last one out of your mind.

+1

Thought I found a new distraction with this last chick I met last saturday, got wasted had a great time, she was all your so cute this that, stayed out till 6 am, hooked up etc, she hung out at my house all sunday then we were gonna just hang out some time during week and left it at that. Well push comes to shove, can never get a hold of her through texts, and well sure I'm more of a texter than a phone caller, and after a few ignored texts I get the feeling if I call I'm just annoying the person even more, so we have yet to hang out and I'm getting the "drop it and go" vibe hardcore, except she told me shes bad at getting back to people and its not just me and she still wants to see me.. sounds like a pity excuse, read it here before something along the lines of "they always try to make it seem like u havent done anything wrong but nope its you"

Ever since then its still hell getting a fucking text back, not worth it. Top of that, she broke up with her ex for some reason, he lives in orlando and she's in tampa so i dont know whats going on but she removed me from facebook, said she wanted to avoid fighting with her ex so she removed a couple of people.. if the text message wasnt a big enough red flag, the facebook thing was. Just awesome for my self esteem at the moment, let me tell you.

Yeah I don't need to hear it, I'm smart enough to figure shit out, but her syaing its not you i promise and that she still wants to see me etc kinda led me on but then the facebook thing was like whoa, what a mindfuck. I've contemplated deleting her number as its a waste of space, but I always believe I should save all numbers incase of future needs, from now on just going to stop all communication.

I'm slowing losing my trust in females though, thats for sure. After awhile it's going to be fuck em all and run far and fast.

I think I'll stick to going out and finding girls vs online dating. I dont need relationship so soon, just a nice distraction.

[Ronaan]

Question that comes to mind: why didn't she just remove her ex from facebook, instead of a bunch of other people.


I thought I was doing better for a while, until yesterday. Went shopping for a rain jacket and ran into Steph's best friend in the mall. We went for a coffee together and talked a bit... and I finally found out what was the main problem:

Steph is a very busy person, while I am... not. So whenever she went after one of her hobbys (about which I never complained, mind you), she felt bad for not being able to give me more time of her day.
I didn't mind, really. We did hang out enough, I knew before that she's very active and can be unavailable for days at a time.
Looks like she put a lot of pressure on herself because of that. Or that's what her best friend said.

So yesterday evening and this morning were spent thinking about her and a lot of "what if" shit. Two weeks of slowly getting over her, *bam* gone like nothing. Shit shit shit.

It's amazing how effective a new girl can be at displacing the last one out of your mind.

I should really try that soon or I might go nuts.

[GrobbeeTrull2.0]

I should really try that soon or I might go nuts.

Do you really want to add another woman into the mix of "people you instantly get hung-up on whenever you see them again?"

[niteflyx]

Originally Posted by GrobbeeTrull2.0

Do you really want to add another woman into the mix of "people you instantly get hung-up on whenever you see them again?"

Grobster has a point. Finding a new playtoy helps get over your last one, but only if you don't get attached to the new one and repeat the cycle.

Try powerhousing through the next couple weeks. It'll hurt and it'll suck, but try to be selfish. Hang out with friends, do stupid shit, whatever makes you happy. Be functional and happy on your own without thinking about the hunnies.

[lost]

Originally Posted by Ronaan

Question that comes to mind: why didn't she just remove her ex from facebook, instead of a bunch of other people.
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Yeah well my two other buddies got removed too, one of em just like shes not over him and still inlove with him, but he lives like 2.5 hours away so i'm not sure whats going on there.. whatever plenty more in the sea

[Ronaan]

Originally Posted by niteflyx

Grobster has a point. Finding a new playtoy helps get over your last one, but only if you don't get attached to the new one and repeat the cycle.

Try powerhousing through the next couple weeks. It'll hurt and it'll suck, but try to be selfish. Hang out with friends, do stupid shit, whatever makes you happy. Be functional and happy on your own without thinking about the hunnies.

I'm aware of that (the bold). It's not like women are going after me like moths after light anyway so it's all hypothetical.

Hanging out with friends and going to work are nice distractions, but unfortunately there's still too many times when I'm alone, and those are ass, some days. Other days it's ok, but some days... meh.

Today was such an ass day.