The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

[Aztlan]

Originally Posted by Tenks

You're treating this like it has been a 2 year relationship when in fact it has only been a 2 month thing. Of those two months I think he said this has been going on for a few weeks. If it were me I'd cut it off but I don't know the full situation. Generally if we hit a major speedbump before 3 months time I end the relationship. At that point it isn't too serious and if something large enough to post on FoHSS happens within that time it isn't as great and happy as you may think.

I'm viewing this like a relationship between 2 individuals. Whether it's a 2 month relationship or a 9 month relationship, my advice would remain the same. I personally don't put limits on people with respect to bad behavior on a 3 month time frame. I allow them to make mistakes and learn from them after I talk them about it. If they continue to make those same mistakes and not respect my wishes, then that's when I start taking action.

You honestly sound like a very intolerant individual when it comes to relationships and that might work for you. Logically reasoning it out though, I find that you'll have a harder time being happy with any individual if you do not allow that person to make mistakes and to learn from them.

[Alcestis]

Other than speculation on our end, the only way to find out about Anne's (retardedly huge) discrepancy is asking her directly. She'll just get defensive and you'll get nowhere. As you said, the only thing to do is really ride this out and see that she's truly committed now. If she doesn't turn back into how it was when you first met her, sex/personality/energy/etc.-wise now that she said she's resolute, that should send up warning flags. Keep us posted.

*poke*poke*wink*wink*nudge*nudge*

Say no more, say no more! A nod is as good as a wink to a blind bat.

[aychamo_aycono]

Originally Posted by Eomer

And that's really the only major issue I have with what she told me yesterday, the whole "I know I've been in a funk for a couple weeks and distant from you, but I didn't realize it was about Jay until Sunday when I found out for sure he was seeing someone" because that just doesn't fucking make sense to me. If the relationship was only confirmed Sunday, why was she in a funk prior to that? And if the funk was indeed caused by Jay, why feed me bullshit and claim that she wasn't able to pinpoint the exact cause until the relationship was confirmed? That part of it doesn't add up to me, and I'd like some further explanation.

(sarcasm)Yeah, she has a TON of feelings for you (/sarcasm) - she almost ends your relationship, distances herself from you and puts your feelings last just because one of her old ex's/fuckbuddies starts dating someone else. She even made up lies (fork leaking) to go see him at his work and start stuff with him because he's dating someone now. If my girlfriend freaked out cause an ex started dating someone, I'd be done with her (and then I'd kill her off on the internet - ha fuck you trolls!)

Originally Posted by Aztlan

You honestly sound like a very intolerant individual when it comes to relationships and that might work for you. Logically reasoning it out though, I find that you'll have a harder time being happy with any individual if you do not allow that person to make mistakes and to learn from them.

There's no logic in love

[Eomer]

(sarcasm)Yeah, she has a TON of feelings for you (/sarcasm) - she almost ends your relationship, distances herself from you and puts your feelings last just because one of her old ex's/fuckbuddies starts dating someone else. She even made up lies (fork leaking) to go see him at his work and start stuff with him because he's dating someone now. If my girlfriend freaked out cause an ex started dating someone, I'd be done with her (and then I'd kill her off on the internet - ha fuck you trolls!)

She's not lying about the bike problems, there's been manufacturer's recalls on hers a couple times already. If it is a lie, it's pretty elaborate, as she mentioned it on a Facebook status update chronologically before she mentioned it to me.

Maybe you're right that she's not telling the truth, or more likely, not being truthful with herself about what her feelings are. Either way, I'm going to stick around to find out. I'll probably see her in the next day or two, instead of next week, as it's supposed to be 4C and snowing where we were gonna go biking, so fuck that action.

[NargorothRiP]

LAWL you giving advice on relationships. go kill yourself.

[Snugglebear]

There's some great advice in this thread for Eomer. Hey, check out the prototype for my new dream game:

[Ortega]

Dude that chick sounds exactly like my ex and you sound just like me! Best of luck to you, but if she doesn't change for the better dramatically soon, walk away! I know it will be hard, but it will give her time to get perspective and you won't get hurt as badly. If it's meant to be you'll come back together when she figures out her priorities, as it stands now if she doesn't change you will probably end up enemies...

[Frax]

Originally Posted by Snugglebear

There's some great advice in this thread for Eomer. Hey, check out the prototype for my new dream game:

+1 for office space

[Deadpool]

Originally Posted by aychamo_aycono

(sarcasm)Yeah, she has a TON of feelings for you (/sarcasm) - she almost ends your relationship, distances herself from you and puts your feelings last just because one of her old ex's/fuckbuddies starts dating someone else. She even made up lies (fork leaking) to go see him at his work and start stuff with him because he's dating someone now. If my girlfriend freaked out cause an ex started dating someone, I'd be done with her (and then I'd kill her off on the internet - ha fuck you trolls!)




There's no logic in love

no you wouldn't, your probably the biggest pussy in this thread. aren't you the guy that lied about his whore dying.

[Dabamf]

Originally Posted by the only guy with a clue

I'm viewing this like a relationship between 2 individuals. Whether it's a 2 month relationship or a 9 month relationship, my advice would remain the same. I personally don't put limits on people with respect to bad behavior on a 3 month time frame. I allow them to make mistakes and learn from them after I talk them about it. If they continue to make those same mistakes and not respect my wishes, then that's when I start taking action.

Everyone makes mistakes, acts poorly based on new emotions, etc. You gotta allow a little leeway for people to make a bad decision here and there. What matters is what happens next time. If she does something similar the next time, then you're 99% wasting your time with this chick, not simply because she can't get over the other guy, but because it means she cannot intelligently handle her emotions and keep emotions where they should be (i.e. not decision-makers).

Aych reminds me of my brother a lot. I'd take advice from him probably over my own reasoning about tryin to get a girl in bed, but I would never take relationship advice from him.

[Tenks]

Originally Posted by Aztlan

You honestly sound like a very intolerant individual when it comes to relationships and that might work for you. Logically reasoning it out though, I find that you'll have a harder time being happy with any individual if you do not allow that person to make mistakes and to learn from them.

And you sound like a doormat. I'd prefer my way.

[Aztlan]

Originally Posted by Tenks

And you sound like a doormat. I'd prefer my way.

Oh oh, sorry I didn't mean to anger you. You just sound like a delusional individual with an unrealistic idea about relationships. You might be a person going from girl to girl throughout his life and thinking the problem is them and not you. You might not. I have no idea. That's just how you sound.

[Ronaan]

Aaaahhh fuck.

I have amazing news, well, sort of.

Stephanie was going to come to my place tonight.
Instead, she called. She had been at my door and was afraid to come in, decided to tell me on the phone instead, to make it easier for both of us.

You know what's coming so I'll make it short.

She feels that she can't commit to a relationship and instead of leading me on for who knows how long, she decided to just tell me and be done with it.

I can't even be mad at her, because it makes sense, sort of.

The huge downside is that she was perfect in all ways I could imagine. We'll still run into each other maybe once or twice a week. I like her too much to hold a grudge really.

Fuck.

[Dantre]

Consider the possibility she might just not be interested in a relationship with you - everything you wrote earlier shows far too many signs of you putting too much into the relationship. Treating someone like they're the second coming is a good way to burn them out - it's hard maintainting an unrealistic level of perfection.

I could be way off, but, give it some good thought and learn from it.

/learning way too much shit of internet people's lives.

[Ronaan]

Originally Posted by Dantre

Consider the possibility she might just not be interested in a relationship with you - everything you wrote earlier shows far too many signs of you putting too much into the relationship. Treating someone like they're the second coming is a good way to burn them out - it's hard maintainting an unrealistic level of perfection.

I could be way off, but, give it some good thought and learn from it.

/learning way too much shit of internet people's lives.

Well I did hold back. We both had our free time after the initial week, she said that was ok. She also said that the behaviour I showed should be normal in a relationship, it's just that she seems unable to give anything back. Her words. She also said she's sorry like 20 times. She likes me a lot and all that yadda yadda.

I know it's possibly my biggest fault that when I'm into someone, I show them. But shouldn't that be normal? Waking up and watching her sleep next to me was the best thing...

Ah well whatever. She said I didn't encumber her, so it can't have been that bad. She's putting all the blame on herself, but that might just be to make it easier on me. Who knows.

I think it's time for a healthy break, and lots of sex with a person I love very much - myself.