The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

[Alcestis]

Bust a nut in her Frosty the next time you get her mom Wendy's food. Don't forget to super-size it.

If it's important to your girlfriend and her non-mouth-breathing family members, I say you go. I personally don't have relatives so awful I felt I could never "pander" to them, so I can't truly relate, but not going strikes me as quite selfish. You might just avoid her the entire time. If she tries something, just fucking walk away and don't say shit. Silence with an eye-roll is far worse to these bitches than getting riled up.

[Brad2770]

Originally Posted by niteflyx

This sounds horrifying :O Careful with this one, she sounds really into you.

This is the chic I dated last year (and stopped seeing my ex for). She may be into me. I dont mind, I like her. Will have to see.

[Tyen]

Me in the background lol

[Alcestis]

At first, it looked like you're playing pattycake with disembodied hands.

Then this happened.

... I'm sorry.

[Tyen]

haha moar

[niteflyx]

boob-pong?

[Dabamf]

Tarrant I think it is possible to be dominant and also respectful at the same time. I think changing any plans (eg not goin to party that you otherwise would go to) to avoid her is a collosal mistake. You can't avoid her your entire life. And if you don't address it now, it will be harder and harder to later. I think the best route is to teach her how to talk to you. Not exactly easy though.

People generally only treat people in ways that they think they can get away with. Remember way back in high school some of the assholes would terrorize some teachers, but with a select 1 or 2 (usually men) they shut their mouth?

Just be normal until another wendys incident comes up. When she flips out, treat it like your younger sister has gotten out of line and you need to correct her. Say something like "whoa whoa hold on. I went out of my way to do you a favor to be nice. You don't have to like it but NO ONE talks to me that way. I am respectful to you, and you will be respectful to me." say it with absolute certainty and talk as if god I'd speaking through your body.

It's really hard and awkward to talk to an elder with a ton of authority, but just picture how you are with a younger sibling or people at work who are below you. For me, my chest is usually puffed out and I seem to grow 2 inches in my mind. Use only words of certainty. Things like "I want you to be more respectful to me" implicitly give her the option to choose not to. If you demand it in a respectful way, everyone will appreciate you standing up for yourself and not taking shit, and even she will like you more for it. I'm always afraid to do something like that but everytime I have, the person ends up liking me more even if they are worthless and crazy.

There is no one on earth who doesn't like a guy who has the balls to (respectfully) stand up for himself like that. I think it's the only option, and if you don't address it in this way, you are in for a long frustrating life. It's essential to keep in mind that the way you speak is gonna be 95% of the message. Use only words of certainty and speak slowly and loudly. Pump yourself up beforehand if you need to. And to reassure yourself remember people 100% WILL like you more after you do it, even the mom.

Good luck. Bitch mom really fuckin sucks. I hate the roulette game that is a significant others' family.

[ToeMissile]

I agree with Alcestis and Dabamf on the bitch-mom situation. It seems like you've handled her pretty well so far. Just keep your cool, and if the seemingly inevitable confrontation(s) happen, you can tell her off just don't yell or swear.

[Brad2770]

Originally Posted by niteflyx

boob-pong?

Night at the Roxbury... when they bounce the women around bewtween themselves.

[CreatingStyle]

that bitch is fat

[Ronaan]

Originally Posted by Dabamf

Have you hung out 4 days straight? That is ultra dangerous, especially at the beginning. If you are really just awesome together you can get away with being around more frequently, but it's a death sentence if you aren't unavailable at times doing other things with friends or family. Don't lose your individuality. It's bad alone, but losing your individuality also has the added bonus of stripping you completely of any attractive qualities. Even if every day you BOTH can't wait to see each other and want to ignore other activities or friends, taking time off anyway is essential. I kinds equate it to listening to a new song you like over and over. You may wanna hit repeat but if you keep doing it you pretty quickly grow to dislike the song.

No, it wasn't for 4 days straight. But close.
Fri -> she stayed with me over the night,
Sat -> met in the afternoon, stayed at her place for the night,
Sun -> left around noon and went to work, talked a bit on the phone when I came back
Mon -> met at her place to talk and stay overnight
Tues -> met in the evening and she stayed at my place. again, talking mainly.

She has a day off today where she will take care of some stuff like hobbies, running errands, while I'm at work. Sucks she's probably still asleep in my bed while I'm sitting here browsing the net working hard.
We will meet tonight, then go climbing with friends tomorrow (it's really great to have a hobby both are into), maybe hang out with those people afterwards. Going to see what happens on the other days of the weekend (thursday is a holiday here so we have 4 days basically).

We both agreed to slowly grow into the relationship. We also both know that having friends outside those we both share is important.

She's really into me it seems. She came to my place last night just to sleep next to me and wake up next to me, no sex involved (though I wouldn't have minded that, but at 35 I'm well past the age where everything you think about is sticking your dick into your girl). She drove 15 miles or so to meet at the climbing gym, noticed she had forgotten something important at home, drove back to pick it up, and then drove those 15 miles again. She could have just said "fuck it" and stayed at her place instead. But she preferred to be around me.

It's the best feeling ever to wake up next to her. Watching her sleep makes me really happy

She made a comment about my entertainment setup last night, to which I replied that I have no real desire for video games any more since ~3 months. She proposed to have a gaming evening some day. Talked a bit about the good old Atari VCS days, how graphics weren't important at all, that sometimes the simpler games are more fun, etc. - I swear this girl comes straight from heaven.

I am aware we've been hanging out almost every day, but often it was only for 2 hours or so (plus the time spent sleeping, but that's pretty passive). It's going to regulate itself after this weekend anyway. We both work full time, and will give each other enough freedom to take care of our friends and hobbies. We both don't want to fuck it up by sitting on top of each other too much.

We also seem to be of a very similar mindset concerning life in general. When we made plans for tonight, I said if she wanted to go out that would be fine, but she said she's past that phase, and while it's fun once or twice a year it's not something she needs to have all the time.

God damn she really looks more and more like the perfect deal, the more I find out about her.

[Incognitogamer]

Good for you bro, sounds like things are moving along fine... don't fuck it up with the l-word. Why do something that may fuck up what you already have? Just go with the flow.

[GrobbeeTrull2.0]

She drove 15 miles or so to meet at the climbing gym, noticed she had forgotten something important at home, drove back to pick it up, and then drove those 15 miles again.

I have nothing to add other than to notice this cultural difference. She drove a whole 15 miles for you?!?!?!?! That's love man, that's love.

[Ronaan]

Originally Posted by GrobbeeTrull2.0

I have nothing to add other than to notice this cultural difference. She drove a whole 15 miles for you?!?!?!?! That's love man, that's love.

Point being, we were in my town already and she drove back to her place to get something, late at night, and came back. She could have just said "you can come to my place instead" or "ah well. I have to go home and will see you some other day". It's not like we live far apart, but it's still about 1hour to get there and back here in total if you include a quick hop in the shower.

Anyway, she bought a bed today (had a mattress on the floor so far, which is enough anyway). I'll help build it tonight, and then it will have to be tested.

[Dabamf]

I wanted to save my 2000th post for something special. So here is a girl I hooked up with about 3 years ago, climbing backwards onto the bed.