The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

[Eomer]

Originally Posted by Sharmai

Awww.. It's way more fun when you play along... *wink*

Oh give me a fucking break, are you seriously trying to pass off the bullshit a few pages back that you spewed everywhere as a troll or joke? GTFO

Originally Posted by Ravvenn

Eomer, your girlfriend is too insecure to handle another woman in your relationship. She's only doing it to please you. She's not curious, she's seeking approval. She probably wants more than being called Ssssuper, too. Additionally, Xerexes obviously used you as a rebound (back-up plan, if you will).

I kind of agree about Anne. She claims she's interested in a girl, and that may well be possible, but surely it's also about pleasing me. And I HAVE been saying more than just smart-assed "swell" and "sssuper" comments. I'm just not sharing that here! Again things go awesome and we get along great.

As far as Xerxes goes, I don't think she used me. She was genuinely interested in me, hence her dropping by a couple times even after we agreed to be friends. She hasn't tried to contact me since, and on Facebook it looks like she's got a new boyfriend already that she went to the Dominican with, so good for her. She's just on the accelerated "find a man who isn't a total loser and marry him ASAP" plan. Dude she's with now looks much more along her lines: kind of meathead/chauchy looking, nice fake tan and looks like he spends 10 hours a week in the gym. Right up her alley!

[Sharmai]

Originally Posted by Eomer

Oh give me a fucking break, are you seriously trying to pass off the bullshit a few pages back that you spewed everywhere as a troll or joke? GTFO

No your right. I do have an ex who is perfectly ok with sleeping with me on rare occasions whenever I want even though I have a pregnant fiancee. My ex is absolutely perfectly emotionally stable and has no issues with this and we both maintain perfectly relationships..

Just like you see all the time right? The situation is not unbelievably absurd at all......

Excuse me I have volleyball triplet 19 yr old models waiting for me to come to dinner..

[aychamo_aycono]

Originally Posted by Sharmai

No your right. I do have an ex who is perfectly ok with sleeping with me on rare occasions whenever I want even though I have a pregnant fiancee. My ex is absolutely perfectly emotionally stable and has no issues with this and we both maintain perfectly relationships..

Just like you see all the time right? The situation is not unbelievably absurd at all......

Excuse me I have volleyball triplet 19 yr old models waiting for me to come to dinner..

Wow we're all so proud of you that you've had sex. What's it feel like?

[Sharmai]

Tiring.

[Alcestis]

Originally Posted by Eomer

As far as Xerxes goes, I don't think she used me. She was genuinely interested in me, hence her dropping by a couple times even after we agreed to be friends.

In your second sentence, your logic simply doesn't follow. She could drop by without having the motive of genuine interest: such as, keeping a back-up plan on good terms, and so forth.

Originally Posted by Grobbee

looks like I need to go talk to the court again about her shenanigans!

Go get 'em, tiger. The court can take away your wife's internet if you press them hard enough. They can even shut down FoH since that's where she's getting all this information! The court can solve this, solve this, solve this. Also, I actually sat through that diatribe. How can someone bring up a point like number 16 yet mix up "its/it's" and casually sprinkle apostrophes into random words like "hormone's"? It's embarrassing.

[GrobbeeTrull2.0]

I'm the English major, not her. She's a subscriber to the Sharmai school of thought while pregnant - not thinking.

[Eomer]

Originally Posted by Sharmai

No your right. I do have an ex who is perfectly ok with sleeping with me on rare occasions whenever I want even though I have a pregnant fiancee. My ex is absolutely perfectly emotionally stable and has no issues with this and we both maintain perfectly relationships..

Just like you see all the time right? The situation is not unbelievably absurd at all......

Excuse me I have volleyball triplet 19 yr old models waiting for me to come to dinner..

Have you been taking hole digging lessons from Etoille?

edit: I should probably leave this lie just because it'll turn into another 8 pages of retardation, but do you honestly expect any of us to believe your fucking meltdown was just you trolling? I mean really? Do you think we're remotely as retarded as you are? You typed up numerous essays with fucked up, half retarded logic trying to defend yourself, and then said everyone was just getting personal and you were done trying to convince us why what you were up to is okay.

I mean, fuck, what the hell is wrong with you?

[Stoerm]

Fuck, Sharmai's RL pic was modded out. Don't really see why. Oh well, no photoshopped "Tell them you were just kidding, snooky-bear" chat bubbles for his girlfriend.

[Aulirophile]

Not sure this counts since we're still together, but I could use some advice!

Bit about me, I had a screwed up childhood, it left me really emotionally closed off. Talking to people IRL was just to much for me, so I ended up spending a lot of time online. I talked to a lot of girls online. Thousands, easily, and I got pretty good at that. I started talking to a few on the phone when I was ~14. Had a few girlfriends (I'd meet them in person, then ask them to be etc), none of them ever worked out long term.

Then this one girl... was just perfect. She's very smart, absolutely gorgeous, we have a lot of the same interests (except fiction, she can't stand reading any type of fiction which I think is just... odd). We met in person in 2004, over Christmas, and I lost my virginity to her. Again in March '05 when I asked her to be my GF. Moved in together August '05 and we've been living together since. We've had to move twice for work (mine, not hers), and starting in September I'm going to be going back to school.

Basically we've been together a long time and things are very good, we've had some issues that we need to work on but... we end up spending a lot of time together. We used to be dirt poor and the only hobby we could afford was WoW. We stopped playing recently and we aren't dirt poor anymore, and she's getting pretty bored where we are. I really think that getting her into some sort of social network/hobby is important to keep her happy, but I'm not sure how to go about that. I'm the kind of person that can easily keep themselves entertained for months with a library card and a well lit comfortable reading spot.

The reason this is horrible is I really feel like the more time we spend together the further apart we get. When you're together 24/7 you run out of shit to talk about, you don't get to talk about your day when you spent your whole day together. Neither of us has ever been great at starting conversations (we're both pretty socially inept, her less so but still). Neither of us is working atm either, so we don't even have that. I'll be starting school in September like I said, and she is going to start looking for a job, but it really feels like we need something.... more. She's even tired of watching anime at this point.

She just needs something more then I can give to be not bored. And keeping her happy is pretty important to me, not just because I love her but because when she's unhappy she feels really closed off and that is hard on me. It makes me paranoid about her thinking about leaving (personal insecurity issue, I'm good about not bringing it up though she's aware of it). Though some shit in the past two years has been pretty awful so if she stuck through that I'm not to worried, especially since things are definitely looking up. This most recent move should be the last for a while. We're staying where we are for a good bit.

Anyway...

[Alcestis]

If things were as bad as you claim in previous years, I'm certain neither of you have much in the way of self-esteem. Starting new things is almost paralyzing at that point and it takes a while to recover from that. Sounds like she's aware she's at a juncture. Let it go. It's not your responsibility to fill up the "boredom" void with social networking, hobbies, and whatnot; it's hers. Your attempts to do so are probably just confusing her and making it worse. The best you can do is reaffirm that things are getting better and be there for her.

[Snugglebear]

Go to a ballroom dance class, that's a classic way for couples to stay together.

[Aztlan]

It seems like you just need some 'romantic' time with one another. Like other's have said, finding hobbies for her is her job. You just need to come up with some memorable things to do with her to have something to look back on.

I'd recommend doing shit that you don't usually do. Opening your horizons per se. Like going on some mini vacations that don't cost a lot of money. (Beach, camping, etc). Going out and hanging with friends (if you have any) or just with each other and commenting on the people walking around or taking in the scenery. I know you aren't social, but sometimes you have to force yourself to be social. You'll find that you adapt quite quickly. You should be able to come up with something. Doesn't have to be amazing, just fun.

One thing I realized in long relationships is that we sometimes get comfortable and just don't put that much effort in doing the fun stuff we once used to do.

Just some ideas.

[Everlast]

So after getting dumped, and then having God awful rebounds I feel shitty and back at square one. Fuck.

[Dabamf]

Originally Posted by Sharmai

No your right. I do have an ex who is perfectly ok with sleeping with me on rare occasions whenever I want even though I have a pregnant fiancee. My ex is absolutely perfectly emotionally stable and has no issues with this and we both maintain perfectly relationships..

Just like you see all the time right? The situation is not unbelievably absurd at all......

Excuse me I have volleyball triplet 19 yr old models waiting for me to come to dinner..

Wow you are just a total faggot. Whether it was a troll attempt or now you are backpeddling and making it appear to be a troll attempt you are a tool either way.

Can people stop fagging up this thread and get back to stories of trainwreck failures, dead girlfriends, and complete strangers with no credentials giving relationship advice. And someone for the love of god get some naked pics up. The only thing I can muster in the near future is a clothed body shot which is lame.

[Evelys]

Seriously. I almost feel the need to post my own tits just to get you all back on track.