Threesome, need serious advice

[lendarios]

Does she show lesbian tendencies?

Is she interested in performing with the other girl or only watch you? You may have a bisexual gf and that would suck. Because then the one that is gonna be scarred is you.

[Deathwing]

All I keep thinking of is Ross from Friends.

[Gryeyes]

Originally Posted by GrobbeeTrull2.0

stuff

So naturally you let your woman bang any man that catches her eye right? So you dont stifle her sexual exploration?

[Hardcore Cracka]

Originally Posted by GrobbeeTrull2.0

I know it's a shocker, but normal people can have "abnormal" fantasies, and still be completely functional and without damage. Perhaps I'm blessed by having a modern "liberated" female companion, but these sort of urges exist in men today, and have for a long time; the fact that women are beginning to show such desires is a good thing.

Sure, there might be a history of some sort of trauma or another, but then again, we're living in a society where trauma and abuse is slowly becoming the norm, rather than the exception. But so what?

I know business men that lead functional lives and have wives and children that also like to be humiliated by their wives in bed.

I know wives that are successful, powerful women who feel they need to be dominated, controlled, or punished in the bedroom.

I know couples that are comfortable in their relationship and with each other, that recognize that sometimes three is a party, and often value the variety in keeping their relationship fresh and exciting.

It's the responsibility of everyone involved to be made aware of the fantasy, to know the rules of it, and to be absolutely sure that everyone is comfortable before even agreeing to such a thing. Between consenting adults, it doesn't matter if you're "damaged" or not. If she's psycho, she'll be psycho without the threesome. If she's normal, she'll be normal without the threesome.

There is no point in stifling someone's sexual exploration, because it will lead to just as much resentment and just as many problems as "daddy issues" or whatever excuse others may come up with. If she feels safe exploring with you, that might actually make her like you MORE, and if that's the goal, well... better with you and your permission than behind your back, or without you entirely.

You really need to listen to more Loveline.

[GrobbeeTrull2.0]

If she felt the urge to go after another man, we'd talk about it first and we'd decide if that's what she wants to do.

Fortunately, in order to explore, one must wish to explore first.

NB. She actually is quite content with me, and wants to explore with a female partner mostly, and/or watch me be with another man. Just because you're looking for other encounters, doesn't necessarily mean you're unsatisfied, or even unhappy with what you have.

[Gryeyes]

Yes she only has eyes for you...i promise.

[Hardcore Cracka]

I predict early divorce for GrobbeeTrull2.0.

[Mythas]

He isn't saying that at all. If two have had a serious conversation about a threesome, and its the girls "fantasy". Then IF you decide to go through with it, its best to leave everything up to her. It is her fantasy and she has played it out a certain way.

I think there is quite the distinct difference between you know i have always wanted to add another girl, and I want to turn into a giant cum dump... whats the local football team doing tonight?

[Hardcore Cracka]

Originally Posted by Mythas

He isn't saying that at all. If two have had a serious conversation about a threesome, and its the girls "fantasy". Then IF you decide to go through with it, its best to leave everything up to her. It is her fantasy and she has played it out a certain way.

Yeah, no. It's never that simple. Start thinking like a woman and reconsider that.

[GrobbeeTrull2.0]

Originally Posted by Hardcore Cracka

You really need to listen to more Loveline.

Fortunately, I've discovered that while Dr. Drew is pretty awesome, his one-size fits all "Where's the father?" doesn't always apply. It's a running joke among some of my friends - it doesn't matter what the caller describes or how much the caller insists that they are normal or have no father issues, it's always "Where's the father?" It's like some Freudian .mp3 on loop.

Everyone has issues - it's whether or not you both can be mature enough to handle them and discuss them together. If not, obviously you shouldn't pursue something like that, but if you can - it won't shake a thing.

[Gryeyes]

Originally Posted by Mythas

He isn't saying that at all. If two have had a serious conversation about a threesome, and its the girls "fantasy". Then IF you decide to go through with it, its best to leave everything up to her. It is her fantasy and she has played it out a certain way.

I think there is quite the distinct difference between you know i have always wanted to add another girl, and I want to turn into a giant cum dump... whats the local football team doing tonight?

No what hes saying is sexuality should never be repressed. And thats just fucking nonsense unless you are willing to never have a stable monogamous relationship. And its easy to accept another "girl" into the mix for a man. But i fucking assure you it would not be add another man.
You don't think your heterosexual gf wants to get tag teamed? Im sure she does but she knows better than to even fucking bring up the subject.

[Hardcore Cracka]

Originally Posted by GrobbeeTrull2.0

Fortunately, I've discovered that while Dr. Drew is pretty awesome, his one-size fits all "Where's the father?" doesn't always apply. It's a running joke among some of my friends - it doesn't matter what the caller describes or how much the caller insists that they are normal or have no father issues, it's always "Where's the father?" It's like some Freudian .mp3 on loop.

Everyone has issues - it's whether or not you both can be mature enough to handle them and discuss them together. If not, obviously you shouldn't pursue something like that, but if you can - it won't shake a thing.

Congratulations on being in the very extreme minority

Too bad I don't believe you.

[Seo]

Originally Posted by twistidd

Every once in a while when I'm fuckin my gf she talks about her fantasy, she wants to watch me fuck a girl then she will join in. This is awsome but I dont want to fuck things up, I want to make this happen but I know chicks dont always followthrough with shit like this. Does any one have honest to Jesus experience with this shit that can tell me how to make it really happen? I'm a threesome newb. thx

I am totally serious I need help not bullshit so dont waste my time with bullshit if thats what your planning to do thanks.

she wants to break up with you. 3 somes are never good news if you are trying to have a relationship with someone and all she is doing is trying to cause chaos (consciously or subconsciously).

sorry you should dump her before she tries worse and worse shit to put strains on the relationship.


*edit* doh i didnt see crackas reply somehow

[Drtyrm]

Originally Posted by GrobbeeTrull2.0

NB. She actually is quite content with me, and wants to explore with a female partner mostly, and/or watch me be with another man.

This a typo?

[Lyrical]

Originally Posted by lendarios

Does she show lesbian tendencies?

Is she interested in performing with the other girl or only watch you? You may have a bisexual gf and that would suck. Because then the one that is gonna be scarred is you.

I had a gf that asked me to have a threesome. I said no (I have turned down multiple threesomes in my life) 'cause I thought it was too freaky. A few weeks later, she started to ask me if she could have a girlfriend on the side. She said it didn't count as cheating because she wouldn't be having sex with anyone that had a penis. I guess her other bf's didn't care if she was with another person, because there was no other penis involved. She sounded surprised I wasn't in to it.

Needless to say, I couldn't get too serious with her. She couldn't decide if she was a lesbian or straight.

The whole threesome thing is weird to me. I look it at threesomes like Seinfeld does. If I had a threesome, I'd have to start wearing a leopard skin robe and have all sorts of oils and such. It's just not my thing.