Crazy Neighbor-- need advice

[Zeste]

Originally Posted by stehle

This is basically the last straw. We are being harassed and we are no longer going to walk to eggshells in the attempts of being a "good neighbor". I'm writing a letter to the LL to explain that this needs to stop now. Once I have it completed, I'll post for some more creative editing.

Understatement of the year.

Really though, what you're putting up with is total bullshit, on your part and the crazy ladies. You should have a cop, a lawyer, and the Landlord all get together, determine what if anything is the vibrating, and if nothign can be found, have the law enforcement and the lawyer absolve you of responsibility and end it.

Honestly, you are such a different person than me. I'd have had legal action taken on this a long time ago. You were being harassed, and you let yourself be exposed to whatever this lady wanted to do for however long she wanted. Even if she "Wasn't doing anything wrong" you have the right to tell her NOT to contact you and not to harass you any longer. If she does, you get a lawyer.

[PatrickStar]

Upon reaching a satisfying resolution, I beseech to the Higher Powers to send this thread Hall of Fame.

[Tuco]

It's usually a chair that enables the users to engage in various positions of sex that beds would not make easy.

I think the one that the neighbor is thinking of is one that vibrates the users.

[Eomer]

It's usually a chair that enables the users to engage in various positions of sex that beds would not make easy.

Isn't that a fuck swing?

[stehle]

The letter which I sent out today. The LL should have it by Thursday.

I'm copying this by hand because the file is on another computer...so ignore the typos.

LL,

Since [wife] and I have moved into the first floor apartment on [address] we have sincerely tried to be good neighbors with the tenant on the second floor--[the crazy neighbor].

When we first moved in to the apartment [the crazy neighbor] and I worked together on resolving any small issues that might come up between us. For example, when I first setup my computer in the office I unknowingly placed my speakers directly underneath her bed [this was about 2.5 years ago]. The sound was an issue so we reached an agreement whereby I would use headphones after 11 pm EST so she could sleep. Over time I continued making concessions until eventually I agreed to just use the headphones all the time.

Over the past four months, however, another disagreement has developed over supposed vibrations which are keeping her awake. I have gone to great lenghts to make changes to accommodate her. I have moved my computer (three times), I have shut down my wireless router, and I have even gone to the great lengths of replacing four fans and installing gaskets in an attempt to dampen any possible vibrations my computer could be generating.

We have done everything in our power to try to resolve the issues [the crazy neighbor] has and it is now getting to the point where we feel we are being harassed. Every night we worry about whether we are making too many "vibrations" which will wake [the crazy neighbor] and cause another furious exchange of e-mails and telephone calls. A perfect example of this is the back office--we pay rent on this room but do not use it during the weekdays because it is directly below [the crazy neighbor's] bedroom. At this point, we are questioning whether it is worth the hassle of continuing the lease on this apartment.

In summary, I find it unreasonable that we have to walk on eggshells in our own home to keep the upstairs neighbor appeased. I would like you to take some action to resolve this situation immediately.

Sincerely,

[me]

[Tuco]

if she ends up getting kicked out of the apartment, you had better have the balls to point her to this forum so we can continue this hilarity.

Isn't that a fuck swing?

Not neccesarily. I've seen variations as simple as



To as complicated as motorized pushers/lifters to simply flexible/bouncy chairs that enable lazy people to hump each other.

[ashatumar]

Are you going to carbon copy this chick too? At some point you've got to let her know you feel you're being harassed, not through proxy of the LL.

[stehle]

Originally Posted by ashatumar

Are you going to carbon copy this chick too? At some point you've got to let her know you feel you're being harassed, not through proxy of the LL.

I was actually advised to go through the LL on all of these matters. We will see how this plays out over the next couple of days.

[Thhin]

Can we please have a pic of your nutzoid?

[Khorum]

Well Stehle mentioned earlier that his wife found this thread hilarious. Which means his wife reads or will read this thread in the future. Which means that if Stehle has taken pictures of his upstairs neighbor naked, spent and duct-taped to her soggy mattress after a 6-hour plow session, he couldn't post it in this thread.

The solution is clear: Private Messaging.

[kcxiv]

you need to live your life the way you are suppsoed too. You have done everything in your power short of moving out to make things peacefull. The more you give that bitch, the more she wants. Just take everything back. Let that crazy bitch move out. Dont give in anymore to her.

[Drajakur]

Originally Posted by stehle

I was actually advised to go through the LL on all of these matters. We will see how this plays out over the next couple of days.

Yes, you should definitley be using the LL as an intermediary. If you also initiate contact with her, the situation has less chance of being nominated harrassment, because you also are encouraging the dialogue.

[Zeste]

Though my days as a therapists intern are long behind me, I have been thinking this woman is suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder:

COPIED FROM WIKIKIKIKIKI:

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is defined within the fields of psychiatry and clincal psychology as a mental condition characterized primarily by emotional dysregulation, extreme "black and white" thinking, or "splitting" (believing that something is one of only two possible things, and ignoring any possible "in-betweens"), and chaotic relationships. It is described by mental health professionals as a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in mood, interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior, as well as a disturbance in the individual's sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation.

The disturbances suffered by those with borderline personality disorder have a wide-ranging and pervasive negative impact on many or all of the psychosocial facets of life, including employability and relationships in work, home, and social settings.

She sounds exactly like a borderline. They can escalate to stalking and even acts of violence if pushed or if their disorder gets out of control.

Basically, either you move or she movies. If she has this disorder, she *won't* get better or let up.

[Rotanee]

Umm, what exactly about her behavior makes her borderline? Not everyone who is a freak is BPD.

Borderlines tend to stalk people who they see as replacement figures for a parents unconditional love they never had. The 'love' interest. I don't see any indication (other than funny comments) she has expressed her love for anyone, or the need to have them love her.

Dissociation is a form of neurosis bordering on paranoia, but neurosis is common with a lot of disorders. Dissociation also comes up usually with people in power over the borderline like judges, police or bosses, or with immediate family members. Those type of relationships often trigger the weird behavior.

All or nothing thinking is not by any stretch limited to true borderlines. The best I see from this lady is she thinks something is bothering her, which most of us doubt is the case. But the reasons or motivations behind her complaints could have nothing to do with black or white thinking without knowing a lot more.

There is also nothing indicative of abandonment, self-harm or suicide.

This lady is a fuck tard no doubt, but I see nothing indicative of BPD.

[Alexzandra]

Originally Posted by Malakriss

All hail the Ghost Sybian, guardian of the apartment, tormenter of the insane

Rofl