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03-06-2008, 04:29 PM
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| is fucking stupid.  Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Earth
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+5 Internets | Music and your Ex I listen to a lot of music. I am listening to music any chance I get. Because of this, I find that music greatly effects my moods and my memories. I can tell you what I was doing the first time I heard some of my favorite songs. Some songs, I have the play count in my iTunes near 1k times. I can repeat some songs over and over and NEVER get tired of them. My point: (basis - My ex-wife was my first and only love, so this stuff really means a lot) I find it VERY hard to listen to certain songs that 'belong' to me and my ex-wife. I really dont listen to them anymore, actually. There are certain artists I cant listen to because they were ones she liked when we were 'on our way out'. Sad thing is, I liked the songs before I knew we were done. What especially bothers me now is new music. I have a hard time listening to new music because one of the things I used to do with her is if I heard a new song on the radio and I thought it was an exceptional song, I would mention it to her and see if she has heard it. I loved liking the same music as her. I have a hard time listening to it because it makes me wonder if she has heard it and if she likes it. I cant exactly call her up and ask her. It was a big part of our relationship that meant something to me (not sure if she knew this) and it really hurts that I cannot share my love of this new music with her. I am curious if anyone else is effected by music like this. Anyone? |
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If so help me out: http://www.fohguild.org/forums/scree...ml#post1005139 | |
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03-06-2008, 04:41 PM
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03-06-2008, 04:46 PM
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I found a nice blue one. As to the music it's pretty normal. With anything your brain picks up (seeing, hearing, smelling, etc) it checks your memory and adds an emotional modifier to it, there are ways to get rid of it but why bother. | |
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03-06-2008, 06:14 PM
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| Sultan of Swingin on niggaz  Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: killadelphia
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| i work at an abercrombie and fitch and today i was working as the greeter in the front of the store. i had just gotten back from a break where i ate a taco bell number 6 (2 chalupa meal) and i started to feel pretty gassy. fortunately, it wasn't very busy today. i checked to make sure the coast was clear and let one rip. it was far more heinous than i had anticipated. almost right after i unleashed my stench bomb a mother and her attractive teenage daughter walked in. i could tell by their faces that they immediately smelled my blunder. the awkwardness of the situation was amplified when i said the store greeting, "hey have you checked out our new fragrance?" |
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03-06-2008, 07:24 PM
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+1 Internets | On the topic of the original post - yeah, I find myself responding similarly to music. Especially because a lot of my recent (and not so recent) vacations have been accompanied by a new album or two. Now, when I listen to those albums, I think back and remember my trips - for example, the latest Muse album was what I got right before I took a vacation in France.
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03-06-2008, 11:49 PM
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| has a liberal feminist agenda  Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: DFW, Texas
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+1 Internets | No. My girlfriend and I listen to different kinds of music. I'm into roughly all kinds of music. Classic rock, metal (all kinds), jazz, blues, funk, and classical. She's into more modern pop music like R&B and hiphop. So we almost never have a musical connection, which kind of sucks since the majority of the work I do in my life revolves around it. Why not share your love for new(er) music in different places, like here? We'll only pester you for pictures and sex toy recommendations.
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03-07-2008, 01:17 AM
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 | I'm going through a similar thing at the moment; luckily we were only engaged and not married. Though I shared very little common musical interest with her, I associated much of the music I own with her. She disliked most of it, so when I listen to any of it I think of her reaction to it. The only thing I've come up with to deal with this is the find new music and listen to it exclusively. While that won't help you considering your situation, maybe you should try the opposite. Seek out old music that was established prior to her and listen to it.
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03-07-2008, 09:23 AM
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03-07-2008, 09:32 AM
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| Your money's on the dresser.  Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Somewhere in the Mountains
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| My ex and I listened to different types of music.. I like metal/old rock she was into Country (which I can't stand). Though, when the next girlfriend comes along hopefully her taste is more in-line with mine. It would be awesome to talk to someone about a new album/song and they actually know what you're talking about. Cuz, I really coulda cared less if Reba had a new album out, I'm sure my ex thought the same for my music 
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03-07-2008, 11:20 AM
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| Music has a ridiculous ability to effect the very core of ones being. I have a similar thing with certain songs and my ex-girlfriend (who was also my one and only love). Hell, my mom still breaks down in tears when she hears certain songs from 40+ years ago (In My Life by the Beatles, for instance). Music is evil to the emotions yet we can't live without it. I pity the deaf. |
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03-07-2008, 06:08 PM
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| Fuckin' 07er  Join Date: May 2007 Location: Philly
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| Listen to something you used to listen to back when you were single, or a happy point in your life that didn't involve her. Music can transport you back and from there, maybe go in a different direction and build an all-new music collection with someone else who'll treat you right.
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03-07-2008, 08:33 PM
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| i maek lotts of typos  Join Date: Jan 2006
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| Without fail every time I listen to to Portishead I think of this girl i dated when i was junior. She was a senior at the time and hella cute. Happy hour continues!
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