Sex before marriage?

[Simas]

Inspired by the latest perennial abortion thread.

[Tenks]

Uh, yes. This is the year 2009.

[Brad2770]

I did not have sex until I was married....


Huge mistake.

[Vinen]

Did, honestly don't give a shit either way.

If someone believes they shouldn't, so be it. If they believe they should, so be it.

[Sharmai]

I think its beyond stupidity to commit yourself to someone for 50+ years without knowing your also sexually compatible among all of the other traits. Like buying the most expensive and important thing in your life without first taking it for a test drive or for that matter taking anything like it for a test drive either.

Insane.

[Dumar]

how many golden anniversaries will there be now?

i'm guessing about 0. people are too concerned about themselves for this type of commitment to another.

[Eomer]

Yes please?

[Suineg]

Originally Posted by Sharmai

I think its beyond stupidity to commit yourself to someone for 50+ years without knowing your also sexually compatible among all of the other traits. Like buying the most expensive and important thing in your life without first taking it for a test drive or for that matter taking anything like it for a test drive either.

Insane.

Commitment is about 'sexual compatibility'?

Wow that's news to me.

I guess my marriage is doomed, it's been a great 10 years. When should I start working on the papers? Now?

[Soygen]

Originally Posted by Tenks

Uh, yes. This is the year 2009.

This. I really can't even fathom marrying someone before knowing them intimately as well.

[Lefazz]

Wrong site for this poll.

[Azrayne]

Unmarried, have had sex, and I think the idea of abstinance is unnecessary and woefully archaic. And I find the idea of getting married without having sex with the person first a little absurd, what if they suck in bed, what if there's no sexual compatability? Sex is a huge componant of a relationship, and leaving it until after you've made commitment like that is just asking for trouble.

[Moontayle]

Wife and I had sex before we got married but we had already been together for a while and it was already close to a given that we'd get hitched by the time it happened. That said, sex before marriage can be an important aspect of figuring out if you have feelings for that person beyond the need to rip their pants off.

[Arbitrary]

Originally Posted by Suineg

Commitment is about 'sexual compatibility'?

Wow that's news to me.

I guess my marriage is doomed, it's been a great 10 years. When should I start working on the papers? Now?

C'mon, you are just being deliberately obtuse now. Sharmai didn't say that commitment was about sexual compatibility. He said that it was an important enough factor that you shouldn't be leaving it to chance.

[blizzak]

I spent 8 years sleeping with every woman kindly enough to give me a throw. Been with my wife for almost 20 years now and never strayed. I think its mostly because as much as I want to bang every hot thing I see, I learned that pussy is just pussy and its really not worth the hurt etc.. I fall into the group that wants to know that their partner is going to be open to try new things, it would be damn stale after this long if wifey was a missionay only kind of gal.

[Dumar]

you guys have this backwards. well to be precise, society screwed it up to the point where you're culturally taught backwards.

sex is supposed to be (if you respect marriage) the act of love. it's this act of love that solidifies the bond between two people in a physical manner. saying things like 'sexually compatible' doesn't make sense in the context of marriage. sexual compatibility naturally follows emotional love. anyone who is emotionally in love will be 'sexually compatible' because it's an act of that love. society has screwed it up to the point where any freedom is okay because it's what the person wants to do or believe. in terms of marriage and 'love', this isn't necessarily the case, and just because it's freedom doesn't make it right.