Pretty sure no way to fix this

[titan_atlas]

As you all are a fount of knowledge most of the time. Here's what happened this evening.

Went out with my girlfriend of a couple months. She leaves tommorrow morning for her home country for 5 weeks. We are sitting at this park in the car talking. She is talking about leg scars or something and points out a burn she got about a month ago on her finger. Now this burn I accidently touched when it was fresh and now she has a dark scar she jokes is my fault. So she smacks my hand kinda hard, playing, and I smack her face, not really hard but kinda reaction hard. She of course hits me back and that ends it. Now for myself, it was reaction to her aggressive action, I immediately regretted the reaction. I have had a rather hard life and do have kinda a tendency to fight. This has never before manifested itself in anything like this. Problem is she immediately said take me home, I apologized, but I know I scared her. To compound the issue she leaves in the morning which means her last contact with me was this shitty situation.

Here's my question: Do I leave it alone, let her come to her own conclusion and hope she forgives me? Do I try and fix it, which BTW I think will just keep picking the scab off a fresh wound?

Anyways, this is fucked and I'm pretty tore up that it happened. This girl means alot to me.

[Phoenix]

Wtf? Your reaction is to smack her in the face?

If she really means a lot to her call her and talk to her.

[Enchiladitos]

I concur. Call and apologise.

[Designz]

I can't really imagine that; if I could, I would probably be laughing.

[Ham n Cheese]

wife beater

[EnigmaticParadigm]

Apologise 10 char.

[Dis]

Not really understanding the reaction here.

She smacks your hand, so you smack her face?

Apologize and then go seek help (I am dead serious)

/been on both sides of this as a kid and as an adult

[redav]

http://spousalabuse.ytmnd.com/

[Mkopec1]

You have to learn not to be a dick. then you can start collecting/camping the pussay!

[AngryGerbil]

But, don't dicks fuck pussies? I say titan is on the right track!

Actually, rethinking that, I think his pussy is all covered in shit. wtg titan, you noob.

[dak]

Thin line between love and hate eh?

Seriously though, for most people an apology without out explanation in this case simply won't cut it. A madman can say he is sorry for something and go right ahead and do it again. You need to sit down and figure out a way to prevent this from happening again and convey it to the girl. Show her you are as caught off guard by this as she is and don't view yourself as a violent person.

The honest truth is from a Western ethos what you did is blatently wrong and even if you were just having a bad day most people feel anger issues like this that would cloud judgement so easily are deep rooted and not easily changed.

You need to gauge the situation and see if she (and more importantly you) accept this as an isolated exceptional incident, then take it from there explaining what triggered it.

If not then see if she is willing to put up with the baggage of you getting counseling, which you should do if you cannot honestly say to yourself that this was a freak occurrence.

Truth is everyone has bad days and acts irrational at times but trying to convince your victims of this is often times very hard to do.

It really depends on the girl and the depth of your relationship but most people wouldn't want to just let this go. You acted like an animal, responding to aggression without thinking. Seeking insight after the fact doesnt make up for this but it helps, showing you at least know the difference between right and wrong.

[Eomer]

Women... can't live with them, can't hit them anymore.

[Screamfeeder]

I could understand if she hit you in the face and then you hit her back in the face. That shit is fair play in these times.

But if she hit your hand, yeah apologize BIG time and get talkin'.

[Mkopec1]

I would honestly seek out help, dude.

If your smacking up your young girlfriends now, think about what will happen when your wife pisses you off in the future. And trust me they WILL piss you off something fierce.

Or how bout your kid, which definitely get annoying at times.

You need to grab control over those anger issues now, man, or your future will be miserable.

[Wysha]

Originally Posted by Eomer

Women... can't live with them, can't hit them anymore.

Haha very funny...


If that were to happen to me, I would expect no less than flowers and some fucking amazing chocolate. Let her know, just like you did us, that it did indeed scare you and you feel awful for doing (if its true, if you feel good about it clean your gun with your tongue ; )). The weakness in being scared is where she will forgive you, so don't be afraid to be the big shit-covered pussy you are.