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[Zinke]

Originally Posted by Chaotic

I have no anxiety, I never have. Depression, on and off. Small interpersonal dissapointments tend to get me depressed, very briefly though. Otherwise, i'm generally stoic.

Anxiety isn't a 'wring your hands constantly' type thing. The fact that you are posting this suggests you are worrying about your own self and your surroundings. Anxiety can manifest itself in bitterness and frustration. You might feel your stronger then your emotions, so you internalize them. Your worried that your not going to be able to fix everything.

I'll tell you about myself, see if any of this rings true. I happen to correct people alot. My good friends tend to be people who let it go, or realize I don't mean anything personal from it. I just happen to soak up lots of random information when I only read/see it once. I don't correct them to show that I'm better then them. I do it because I want them to have the correct information for their own well-being. So, if in the future that same topic comes up, they don't look like an idiot etc.. Problem is, it's not exactly obvious that's why I'm doing it. Sometimes I do it in a playful/sarcastic way and people laugh. Other times I'm too blunt about it and can hurt someone's feelings. No one likes to be proven wrong, and that's how it comes out sometimes, that I'm trying to prove them wrong.

So, why do I keep doing it? Why do I care that everyone I know always have the correct information about even the most tiny little thing? I worry otherwise, it's a form of anxiety. Not being able to just let things go is anxiety. Your not able to let things go about people. If they let you down, your upset about it. You want to fix everything and everyone around you.

You don't like doctors, ok. See a psychiatrist then. It'll be someone who is trained in this kind of thing, and not a bunch of random know-it-alls on the internet (myself included). Even if they don't exactly solve your problem, it's good to actually talk, not just write a post, about it. To hear it come out of your own mouth can oftentimes give you a better understanding then just thinking about it in your head.

[Chaotic]

I don't know if I so much worry about myself and my sorroundings. I am just very aware of what goes on within, and around me, as such I notice changes even if they are subtle. I am stronger then my emotions, but who won't tell you that? Teenage girls maybe.

I constantly correct people, not out of any sense of superiority, but because I just think it's the right thing to do. I think I do it without being an asshole. I also like to teach people things, anything really. Karate moves to historical and philosophical facts, you name it, doesn't matter.

Maybe I do want to fix everyone around me. This may be true insofar as i'd prefer if they were "perfect". Perfect meaning not a source of problems, as opposed to without flaw. Two seperate things though. I'd like if things went my way, or at least in some general semblance of my way. I can compromise, I can settle myself with fallibility. I do hold people to incredibly high standards, and I come out sharp when I disagree with something (Typically because I have a righteous indignation, such as if a girlfriend (read: a girl thats a friend) of mine breaks up with a bf and is with some other guy the next day, I hate that, poor form. However, I listen to other sides of the argument, and I accept and back off when I am wrong. This falls into the "open to new experiences" category I suppose.

I've always wanted to see a psych since my ex started seeing one. I think i'd probably blow his mind, but I'm almost afraid to see what demons would come out? Might be rather amusing actually.

[Renolin]

A Cal teacher of mine (who has a doctorate in Psych from UT) always said "People don't need Psychs, all they need is a good friend." Someone to listen, offer advice that fits what you want (because that's why most people ask for it), and to offer support.

Another reason not to see one, is that it comes up when you run for President. Gotta keep up that squeaky clean record.

~Renolin