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Originally Posted by 3xodus

She's Just Not That Into You (She's That Into Everyone) | The Stimulist

Some of you may find that article an interesting read. I know I did, because I recently have been having a falling out with a girl just like one described in the article, and it's frustrating how accurate the whole story is to my own.

Just thought I would share.

This is exactly what made me hesitate to long with the last girl. She was giving a lot of attention, but I noticed she did that with everyone. Had no idea how to interpret this, so failed to act when my chance came up. At least I never acted like "boy" in the above story. I'm far too reserved to ever give away personal details unless asked directly, and even then I'll likely understate.
(When given advice to just go for it, I think my response was something like "No, she's everyone's friend like that, and I'm having too much fun right now to risk fucking it up." Which was an excuse to be timid.)

That article just cleared up a lot of confusing shit for me, thanks. I knew I'd fucked up when I didn't take my opportunity, and, from the start, that it wouldn't work out based on my personality and her background, but I couldn't see her motivations. (and understanding motivations for seeking companionship is necessary to decide if you can meet their needs, and how.)

Can't say I'll be any better off should I meet a similar girl, but my mind is a little more at ease now. Perhaps hanging out with a girl I'm still attracted to without being able to act on it (while still enjoying this time) will toughen me up some? I think so.

Originally Posted by 3xodus

...she started talking to a guy I know, did the same thing to him, and then I watched him get played the same way I did. He had feelings for her, she didn't have feelings for him. He gushed his feelings, she had to tell him she didn't feel anything between them.

The whole point of the article is that she's not playing anyone, she's just being herself? Sounds like the guy played himself by basing expectations on an inaccurate analysis of their relationship. Anyway, don't you think it sucks just as much for the girl to watch her friend torn up because she can't feel anything in return, and then probably lose that friendship? Not to mention the awkwardness ... Or hell, just the disappointment of yet another guy turning out to be lame. Experience that enough times, and I can see how she might become callous towards guys who too easily get attached and clingy.


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